Hey there, I've started dating this guy for a while and I really like him, he has most of the physical, emotional, and personal attributes that I look for in a partner.
The only negative thing about him is his cleanliness standards. Not like body hygiene, that's fine he showers daily and wears clean clothes, but rather in his home. I'm pretty sure his mom was a helicopter parent and he never had to clean and just has bad habits about it. He blames his ADD for the mess.
laundry gets piled up for weeks until he has to do like 6 loads in a day and never gets put away after being washed
although he has a dishwasher and cupboard space for storage he chooses to leave all his dishes dirty in the sink until he needs them then hand washes. His cast iron frying pan has food scraps in it and hasn't been cleaned since he used it a week ago, I'm a bit of a cast iron snob and it's just making me sad for the pan.
-after finishing a meal, he'll just leave the dishes and trash on the table until the next meal so he has to clean the table before eating.
I dont think his counters have ever been disinfected
he doesnt own a vacuum
he has some nice furnature but other stuff is janky, like the TV is balanced on a dining room chair near the couch.
there is clutter on every surface
The way it is now, I'm alright going over there and hanging out but I'm honestly kinda turned off and I dont know i could spend the night with him at his place.
Would it be weird if I asked to clean his house? I was thinking of saying along these lines: "hey, so I wanna talk about your house real quick. I'm not judging and this isn't a relationship ending issue but I think that we'd both be happier if your house was cleaned and organized. I know it isn't your strong suit and that's totally fine. With that said, it is something that I enjoy doing because acts of service are my love language and it would honestly make me so happy. Would you let me clean and organize your house? "
Whatcha think, am I crazy? Should I just drop the issue? How would you feel if somebody asked you this? Is this something that you'd break up with somebody over?
TL:DR How does a clean freak date a messy person?
Submitted January 01, 2021 at 08:54AM by Bubbly_Humor https://ift.tt/2KWFm5j
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