I’m 24 years old. I’ve been with my boyfriend since I was 11. We’ve been engaged since I was 21.
Our relationship isn’t what it was. For two years now he’s been a fat, stay-at-home slob who doesn’t look after himself and expects me to do everything for him. I’ve tried to talk to him about it but he accuses me of being a bitch about it, which I became convinced was true and stopped trying at all. Within the last year or so he’s been pointing out things he doesn’t like about my body and insists I ‘change’ the things he doesn’t like, but when I point out what I don’t like about him in retaliation he shrugs and says men aren’t supposed to be the ‘pretty ones’ in a relationship. He’s a real shitbag and I chose to ignore it because... well, I’ve never broken up with someone before and have deep feelings for him.
At work, a new coworker recently joined the team and what do you know - it’s an old friend of ours from high school! He was hot then and he’s even hotter now, and he was sweet and kind at school and he’s even nicer of a person now. We went out for a drink a few weeks ago to catch up on work and... I really enjoyed my time with him. Like, I REALLY enjoyed it. He made me laugh the entire time I was with him, we’ve got similar goals in life, similar taste in movies and TV shows. He’s perfect for me.
The last time I had sex with my fiancée, as with every other time for as long as I can remember, I couldn’t get into it... until I imagined he was my coworker/old friend (I felt really weird about that and couldn’t carry on though). And then we were drunk the other night and he remarked that it was a shame I was still with my fiancée because he’d love to take me out ‘properly’, and admitted he had a crush on me all throughout high school. I jokingly told him to shut up and we moved on.
It got me thinking though... I’m not happy with my fiancée. At all. This man has come back into my life and showed me what I’ve been missing. I want to break up with my fiancée. I’ve never broken up with anyone before though and I honestly have no clue how to do it. Is there a way to minimise hurt feelings, etc.? How do you... start the conversation? What is the entire process like?
Thanks.
tl;dr: My fiancée is a fat, lazy, degrading slob. I’ve never broken up with anyone and I don’t know how to do it. How do I break up with him?
Submitted December 05, 2020 at 05:02PM by applesalad4569 https://ift.tt/36KUzOV
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