Should I keep bothering husband to come visit?

Should I keep pushing for my husband to visit?

First time post and on mobile. I (23f) and my husband (24m) are in a long distance relationship currently. He is working for a close friend in another state about 4 hours away. I cannot leave my job because it’s good money for us (and I don’t want to leave it currently) He took this job as a way to go up the ladder to running a second location eventually , making good money, and helping his good buddy who needed it.

Before he started, all three of us (myself, hubby, friend) had a phone call where we all agreed that to make this work for our marriage, I would visit a weekend, and husband would be given a weekend to come visit me. Two months later, I have visited several times and he has only visited once for a day and a half. I’m pissed he won’t come visit more!

I got him to get a day off close to thanksgiving for us to meet at a family members house. I had been trying to get him to come visit me in the next week and a half since mid October, and he says now that I have asked him for this day and to visit family, he can’t come visit just me before the family visit. It’s already been several weeks since I last went up there.

I understand he his very busy, but it’s frustrating because I am as well. I work two jobs, take a few online classes, I did majority of cleaning/cooking, and we have several cats and dogs to take care of. We’ve been together since highschool, and he used to be military, so we are used to having to be apart, but he’s not being forced to stay away anymore. We had all originally agreed to alternating visiting, and now it’s turning into I’m always the one having to pack up the boys (dogs), get my parents to watch the cats and axolotls, and drive the 4 hours up there and back. I think it’s reasonable that my husband should want maybe 2-4 days off out of the last two months to visit his wife? It’s not like I require he takes time off each time I visit either. How can I help sort this out?

TL;DR husband and I now live 4 hours away apart due to work, originally we both agreed to alternating visiting. However, it’s turning into I’m the only one taking the time from work to drive back and forth.

Submitted November 04, 2020 at 12:50PM by zooqueen3434 https://ift.tt/3jXTHKb