Before I start this post, I just want to state I love this girl guys.
I'm a guy finishing up his last year in undergrad, I have a job, I'm in the gym, I have goals I intend to hit and I'm really big on self development and bettering myself.
My gf is the complete opposite. She has a sleeping disorder in which she states is the reason it's so incredibly hard to get her school work done. She failed a lot of her classes and got an extension due to this (and still doesn't complete it.), She's depressed and constantly tells me how much she hates her life, her parents, her situation, her disorders. "I'm tired." "I hate my life" "I'm lonely", etc. Every day it's a new issue. She doesn't try eating healthy, yet complains about her weight, and honestly, the list goes on. It's this every day misery that drains me completely. She has a psychiatrist, a sleep doctor, a therapist and none of which change her mood or mindset.
I try to have her look on the bright side. Look at things from a different perspective. I even just try to be "just there" and hear her out. None of which changes anything and I don't want to eventually morph into that "Toxic positvity guy"
I reached a breaking point, and told her the future scared me. That I couldn't do this anymore. I told her my values and what I follow and how our relationship is, it just isn't compatible. She told me these were the same values she wanted and she would change. I told her I don't want her to change for me, but for herself. She said these changes were coming from her and she would do it solely for herself.
Fast forward into the 2 weeks in the future, I see the decisions she makes with little change.
I understand these things take time. But we don't know how long. At all. This change could take 2 months, or 10 years. And from what I'm seeing the small 2 activities I seen her within 2 weeks do or tell me about, indicates a very long journey, or not one at all.
I don't know what to do reddit. I care so much about this girl but I do not know what to do.
TL: DR: Me and my gf are at two different points in our life and I don't whether to stay or go.
Submitted November 22, 2020 at 09:52AM by BarbellFanatic https://ift.tt/3lX2r59
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