I feel like my ex is punishing me with her social media posts after she broke up with out of the blue

My girlfriend (25f) and I (25m) just broke up over the weekend, and now she appears far happier on social media and I'm really hurting because of it.

For the last few weeks things have been a little strained between us, I'd asked her about it and she'd told me that her mental health had been really bad. She told me that her doctor had upped her dose on her antidepressants, and she'd also been late to work a few times because she overslept which is very unlike her, so I fully believed that she had been struggling.

We'd also not had sex in probably two months, we'd talked about it, and she'd told me that sometimes her sex drive just disappeared. I know that this is a side effect of antidepressants, but I never actually confirmed if that was the reason from her. She stressed at the time that it wasn't because she was uncomfortable with me.

On a Friday we had been texting in the morning (because of the pandemic we've not been able to see each other as much, so we've been talking mostly by text) she went completely quiet on Friday afternoon which was a little out of character, I tried calling her, to try and make plans for the weekend and see how she was, but she didn't pick up. I assumed she'd call me back or message when she saw this missed call but she didn't.

I didn't hear back from her until about lunchtime on Saturday, after I'd sent her two messages and called her.

She picked up asking what was up like nothing was wrong, I said that I felt things hadn't been great over the last few days and wondered if we needed to talk about us or anything else that was wrong.

We talked for about 40 minutes, where she told me that she felt something hadn't been right between us and that'd we lost our spark. She also said that she wished I'd taken charge more in the relationship, but that I was still a great guy and that the timing for us had been bad, and that it was hard because of Covid.

So she broke up with me, and to be honest it really came as a shock. I new things had been bad the last few weeks, but I didn't realise that it was specially our relationship.

I asked if we could talk in person, but she told me she didn't want to do that because she thought it would just make it worse.

The next day, and practically every other day since she's been much more active on social media. She's taken pictures of her food showing she's eating out, she's taken pictures of her outfits, and showed off her butt in the mirror.

The thing is that when we were together, and from what I remember before she never used to show off her life like this. I feel it is for me to see, and I don't really know what to make of it. I don't have any issue with what she's posting on just face value, but because she was never like this before I feel it has something to do with me.

I'm adamant that I didn't do anything wrong to deserve this. I didn't cheat, I've not been texting other girls, if anything I think I was more committed to the relationship than she was. I feel nw she's trying to make out her life is much better now she's got rid of me and it's really hurting me. I guess what hurts the most is that I now feel like I was the one making her miserable.

Maybe I'm just being too sensitive, and she's not even thinking about me, which hurts too.

I feel like I want to talk to her again, just see if I was the cause of her misery before, but I can't really see that being a good idea.

My mom thinks she's playing a game with me, and wants me to fight for the relationship. A good friend who knows us both thinks that if I did 'fight' for it, I'd just creep her out, which I sort am siding with more at the moment.

I also desperately want her back, but I had decided not to get in touch for at least a month, to give her space, and sort out my own problems with mental health which I feel have certainly impacted our relationship sometimes, but not super drastically.

We have a similar friendship group, so it's likely we'll bump into each other a lot, especially over the Festive period. I guess I'd sort of planned to try and grow up a bit more, regain my confidence and try to get her back.

Anyway, that's probably enough to be getting on with, but any advice on what I should or shouldn't do and maybe interpreting whats actually going on here would be super helpful.

TL;DR: I'm struggling to interpret my now ex-gf's social media posts after we broke up

Submitted November 03, 2020 at 03:40PM by puddlecolts https://ift.tt/362KYlh