So first, I just want to start this off saying that I know this may seem trivial to some of you. But some background on me is that the family and culture I come from really values good food and the ability to cook (especially for women, sexist, I know, but still.) Another disclaimer is that I know some people may be tempted to say that maybe I’m actually a bad cook. I’m not trying to be self boasting at all but I am a very good cook, everyone loves my food, and I’ve won several cooking completions! I’m not a professional chef, but I do have training.
Anyway, I’ve been with my boyfriend for over a year now and we are very serious. Engagement is around the corner, we love each other very much, and for the most part our relationship is great! Just minor couple disagreements from time to time. However, my boyfriend never compliments my food. I cater to him big time, always asking what meals he wants, I’ve learned his likes and dislikes and always plan meals I think he will love.
I serve him his plate and he eats the whole plate and never says a word if it’s good or not. If I ask him if he liked it he simply responds with “yeah it was good, thanks” but that’s it. No real emotion or gratitude or any kind of praise. I know it may seem like I’m wanting a pat on the back but dammit when you spend hours in the kitchen preparing meals every day, some emotion about the food would be nice. We have been quarantined together the last 3 weeks and I have cooked every. single. meal. Today I spent 5 hours making marinara sauce and meatballs to serve with spaghetti, and after I served him his plate it was SILENCE for the whole meal. I refused to ask him how it was because I knew I would just get upset. I guess the advice I’m asking for is how do I get him to be more appreciative to me?
I have told him time and time again that it hurts my feelings when he doesn’t compliment my cooking and that I wish he would express his emotions more. He says he’s sorry and that he liked the meal. But his behavior never changes. What do I do?? I feel like I’ve talked to him about it so many times that he just doesn’t care and will never change. I know I’m ranting, and this may seem so trivial, but it matters to me.
Tl;dr: my boyfriend never compliments my cooking after I spend hours preparing meals for him and it’s starting to wear me down.
Submitted May 01, 2020 at 02:23AM by curiousbanana186 https://ift.tt/2yhckqS
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