My boyfriend and I started as friends. He tried for months to get with me but I just never saw him in that light until recently. I’m going through a nasty divorce and told him before we started dating that I do not want to get married again. No exceptions. It’s just a personal choice, I don’t really see a point in involving the government in my relationship. I can be just as happy and secured in my relationship without the piece of paper that comes with marriage.
Now my boyfriend is madly insanely crazy in love with me. I’m 100% positive I’ll never be loved like this ever again in my entire life. He told me from the beginning he’s ok with us not getting married. We’ve talked about it a couple times after, and he was still on board with my decision.
Now he’s saying he needs to marry me by May 2021. He says he wants us to start our lives together ASAP. I told him I’m not interested in marriage, especially after a year of dating, that is insane. He’s now saying he wants to get married and make the commitment to God.
I’m trying to have a serious talk with him about this but he keeps saying that “we’ll talk about it when the time comes.” I think it needs to be addressed now but he’s all care free about the subject and I’m over here worried and concerned about what the future holds for us. He knew from the beginning I didn’t want to get married. The more I seem concerned about it he kinda backs off and hits me with the “as long as I’m with you forever, that’s all that matters.” It’s kind of a cycle. Then he goes on and talks about how he needs to marry me. I know if we keep avoiding this topic, one of us is going to end up with some serious resentment issues when the time comes.
My boyfriend gets anxiety and is always worried about me leaving him or getting tired of him. He’s never admitted this, but I think the idea of marriage will make him feel better. What do I do? I love him. We live together, our kids love each other as brother and sister.
Tl;dr I told my boyfriend from the beginning of the relationship I don’t want to get married, now he wants to....
EDIT: a lot of people are confused with the timeline. I separated from my husband July 2019, and started dated my boyfriend November 2019.
Submitted February 03, 2020 at 04:31PM by sadiehaekinsohohyeah https://ift.tt/398hNx2
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