My (33F) boyfriend's (30M) ex-gf wants to hang out with him more and I can't tell if it's something to be concerned by.

We've been together about six months, give or take. My boyfriend was previously in a bad living situation (lived with someone who has mental health issues and was disruptive to his sleep) so he needed to move out. However, he had a lapse in employment in that period of time and it would have been hard to move out without current proof of employment. His ex-gf is living in an apartment building where they both mutually know the landlord/owner and she had intel that two people were moving out. Because the landlord knows my bf from a previous situation, he was willing to rent out a room to him without proof of employment as long as the deposit/rent was paid. However, this puts my boyfriend and his ex-gf in very close proximity. However, given how bad the previous living situation was, I wanted my bf to move out and be in a better environment away from constantly having to deal with an unstable person with unpredictable outbursts so I'm understanding of the situation and why he moved to the same apartment building as her.

He's been very transparent about their relationship, so what happened and their current status. It seems that although it ended badly (he was hurt by her), they've moved on and are on 'friendly' terms and have hung out once in a while in the past, but they're not super close per se. However, the more I've learned about her, the more I question her 'character.' It seems that while they were dating, she liked to make friends with guys and seemed to want to hang out those guys and my bf. It made him uncomfortable, because the guys were obviously interested in her (in fact they broke up because she ended up almost hooking up with one of those 'guy friends') but she would deny it. I don't like to judge people without knowing them, but a mutual friend of my bf talked a bit about her, and it seemed like she's a very vain person who's all about appearances and the right outfit for instagram. Additionally, she seemed to think guys in a coffee shop were always trying to get close to her and told my bf about that, on top of her 'guy friends.' This all makes me conclude that she likes having male attention, keeping around male orbiters but also manipulating my bf's feelings when he expressed discomfort that she kept wanting to hang out with him and her 'guy friends.'

They broke up 2+ years ago and he's been mostly single during that time. Since he's moved in to the same apartment building as her, he's expressed to me that she's been wanting to hang out more and keeps reaching out to him to do so. Again, this in itself isn't an issue (or so it seems to me at first) because they're in close proximity to each other but he's also expressed that he doesn't really want to. I don't think he has feelings for her, but it seems that she's still at the 'I've met x and y guys and you should meet x guy, you'd get along!' thing and that makes him feel uncomfortable, because it's the dynamic they had and probably dredges up unpleasant memories. I told him that I trust him and I don't necessarily think his ex-gf has nefarious motives, but it does coincide with our relationship being 'more' serious and the fact that I suspect she likes to keep guys hanging around for male attention to flatter herself and if anything, getting his attention this way is just for more of his attention - not that she's trying to intrude on our relationship, per se. I do find it rude though that she's increasing the frequency of asking him to hang out when she knows he's dating me. If I were her, I would be respectful and keep away, rather than trying to get closer.

TL;DR: My boyfriend for practical reasons, had to move close to his ex-gf. She's increasing wanting to hang out with him and I can't tell if I should be concerned.

Submitted September 23, 2019 at 10:15AM by global_scamartist https://ift.tt/2lem4eR