My [22F] boyfriend [24M] broke up with me because I'm going to Europe for 2 months with my best friend [23F]...

My boyfriend of close to 2 years broke up with me out of the blue because he figures I'm going to be "sleeping around Europe" with my best friend.

I've been planning this trip with her for over a year, and he's known about it since then and never had a problem with it until recently (I leave next month). This totally blind-sided me, and I've constantly tried to reassure him that I won't be "sleeping around", but he seems dead set on the fact that I can't go travelling for 2 months without hooking up with someone.

He's always been such an amazing, caring and genuine guy, and this seems completely out of character. Is it the norm for travelling without your SO to warrant a breakup?

I was just shocked and pissed at first and thought he was an asshole. He cited his brother's girlfriend cheating on him on her trip to Thailand, as well as one of his friend's girlfriend.

When I told my best friend about this, she just said "Well, now we can have guilt free fun" as if it was all premeditated that I'm going to cheat on him. I feel incredibly shitty about all of this, and almost don't want to go now. I was never planning on cheating on him, and now that we're broken up, I feel like she's just going to be pushing harder for me to hook up with random guys.

I've talked to her about this, and she's said that she'll respect my boundaries while travelling, and won't push me, or make me uncomfortable at all.

I do believe her, but now that we're broken up, I just feel that IF I do end up hooking up with anyone, that I'll just be falling into the "20-year-old finding herself by sleeping around Europe" trope.

I wanted to invite him, but we were still pretty freshly dating when we started planning this trip, and it just would've made her feel like a third wheel the whole time. I even asked him if he'd reconsider if I didn't go, or even if he came, but he said the fact that I'm the kind of girl who has to go "find herself while travelling" is a red flag, and that he was done.

I'm just looking for advice on what to do, and what to think. I'm losing someone I love over a 2 month trip in Europe with someone who clearly does want to go to party, have fun, and sleep around. Has anyone experienced anything similar? How have you handled it?

Is cheating on vacation as common as everyone is making it out to be?

TL;DR - Boyfriend broke up with me due to horror stories of other people's girlfriends cheating while on vacation. Best friend confirmed, in my mind, that he may have been in the right to break up with me over it, even though I never would have cheated on him in the first place.

Submitted February 24, 2019 at 12:31PM by ycca442 https://ift.tt/2IAbVUV