Boyfriend [25M] of 2 years uses "gay" as a catch-all joke/insult and I [24F] don't like it. I told him once and he didn't stop. What now?

It's bizarre because he's actually a very intelligent man who is respectful of people's emotions and ideas (unless they are bonkers, like flat earth or something), but this is like a thing that's stuck with him for some reason.

When two men hug or show friendship in a movie or something, he puts both hands around his mouth as if to speak louder and says "gayyyyy" like the meme. Also when actual gay people on screen appear or say something that is... gay, like kissing their same sex partner, he does the same.

Also he does the same around town, when we are out eating, etc., but he never actually tells it to people. I guess he finds it funny, but I don't, my sister is gay and I find it a little offensive to take someone's orientation as a joke.

I can kind of see why he wouldn't find it inappropriate, his father is pretty, not friendly with homosexual people. I mean, he doesn't go out and marches against same sex marriage, but he drops comments that make it obvious that he's not too fond of them. Still, he sees and understands that his father's actions and words are not cool.

I told him once that I didn't think it was appropriate for him to say that and he said "you think?" and I said yeah. And he said he would stop but he clearly hasn't.

The other thing is, I don't know if I'm being a little too easy to offend here by essentially taking offense on behalf of other people. I don't think it's appropriate of him to say it, but I am not entirely sure that I am not going a little too far myself with this.

Is it innapropriate of him? I am a little too easy to offend? How would I ask him to stop if necessary?

tl;dr: Boyfriend uses "gay" as a "friendly" way to mock gay people as a joke. Is it inappropriate? How would I ask him to stop?

Submitted February 23, 2019 at 09:20AM by CorrectFix1 https://ift.tt/2H3ZNct