TL;DR - my (28/f) husband (28/m) of 7 years is taking his new (26/f) friend on a nice dinner date tonight and I don’t know how to react without being jealous

Before I start I know that therapy is the best thing for depression/anxiety fuelled jealousy and I am pursuing this.

So my hubby has always had female friends via his work and I’ve never much worried about it. I usually end up meeting these woman and they’re lovely, married or whatever and totally a non threat. I guess I’m not always jealous 😉

Over the last couple of months he’s been working with the female mentioned in my heading. He’s in a trade industry and having a female in his kind of role is rare, especially in this small town. He’s really supportive of woman’s rights and equality in the work place so he’s kind of taken her under his wing (even though she works for a different company to him)

He’s fascinated by her, a woman who likes to get her hands dirty. She’s moved here from another country so she doesn’t know many people. He tells me she’s great at her job and she’s really funny and a good time to work with. I’ve never met her but I know what she looks like as he’s described her a lot. My husband is work obsessed so maybe it’s nice he has someone female he can talk work with? He can talk with me but after an hour or more I get bored listening.

So last night he tells me he’s going to his bi-monthly trade dinner (it’s actually a really nice evening where everybody dresses up fancy and has dinner and drinks while listening to guest speakers) and he tells me he’s going to pick her up and take her as his plus one (he usually goes with his co worker dude) He’s the most trust worthy guy I know but I saw red... he knows I struggle with anxiety and jealousy and he thinks hes helping me get over it by doing something like this. They’ll be out together late as it’s a big evening and I can’t bear the thought of it... he often puts me second to other peoples needs and this is kind of a last straw (amongst other things going wrong in my world)

He’s coming home to get ready/dressed up soon - what do I say to him? I can’t pretend to be ok with it but I don’t want to fight before he goes.

Who is this ‘amazing’ woman and why does she get to go out and be on my husbands arm tonight? We’re so low income that I’ll be at home crying into my two minute noodles...

TL;DR - my (28/f) husband (28/m) of 7 years is taking his new (26/f) friend on a nice dinner date tonight and I don’t know how to react without being jealous

Submitted October 02, 2018 at 06:23PM by itsjust_shadow https://ift.tt/2Ixrsks