MIL wants to move in to help with our first kid

My MIL (60) is a freaking joy to be around, I (25) swear, and I love her a lot. We got to be close years before DH and I started dating and she was like a mom to me before I married her son- I've known her for 12 years.

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The thing is... she wants to stay with us the first month after our kid is born and I don't even know what to say. She swears we'll be exhausted and won't know what hit us (I'm sure she's right) and that she'll be a great help (again, I'm sure she's right) but to be honest, I'm not thrilled with the idea. I want to limit the number of people our newborn is around in the first few months and frankly, I want my privacy. I want to get into a groove figuring out how to mom before someone hops in the game with their own playbook, even if it does come with a bunch of assists (I'm not a sports person that may have sounded unwittingly stupid... heh).

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I just don't know how to tell her. Or how to tell DH to tell her <_<

Don't get me wrong, I expect to be on the phone with her every week if not every day to ask her some thing or another about infant-rearing but a live-in MIL is not what I am bargaining for at this particular juncture, even if it is just for a month.

Another thing is that she joked she'd be pushing my mom out of the way while/after I give birth to see the baby. Which opened up another can of worms in my head. I think I'm okay with having the women-folk with me while I do the ultimate woman-thing but I'll have none of that.

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And I just don't know how to address all this. I love her a lot and I want her to feel so welcome... like she's always made me feel. She also has expressed excitement that she has a chance to be a certain kind of grandma with her son's kids that she didn't get to be with her daughters' kids... <_<

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Another thing to note is that I struggle with severe depression and PTSD, so I wouldn't be surprised if she was secretly concerned about my ability to actually cope with parenthood, the disturbed sleep, and the potential of postpartum issues interacting with what I'm already dealing with... I can honestly see a number of reasons she might be pressing the issue.

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Literally any advice would be life.

Thanks.

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**TLDR** MIL wants to move in to help with our first kid for the first month and I don't know how to address it. She's dropped hints about this for years (and I've just smiled) but now I can see she's serious.

Submitted October 31, 2018 at 11:38AM by UFOrganism https://ift.tt/2Jsyis9