Girl [22 F] I’m [22 M] dating has been acting super weird about my exes because of their race. Is this worth working out or should I drop her?

I’ve been dating this girl for 2 months and so far it’s been really great. We had a lot in common and have been having a lot of fun but recently she’s started to act weird about my exes.

It actually started a couple of weeks ago. I’m pretty good friends with one of the girls I dated when I was 14. We dated for a couple month tops and never slept together. I don’t talk endlessly to her but sometimes we text or she’ll comment on my pictures and I went to her birthday party a few weeks ago. I was upfront with my girlfriend that we had a thing a long time ago but were just friends now. She made a weird comment about how she didn’t know I was into black girls. I changed the subject because it made me uncomfortable and didn’t know if she was joking or I was reading her wrong. I’ve joked like that with my friends in the past so I didn’t take it too seriously.

Later as we decided we wanted to be more exclusive she said she wanted to know about my dating history and said that she had only had two boyfriends, one in high school and one in college. I thought it was a bit odd to ask but I told her I had slept with 6 people and had 2 serious girlfriends (which is the truth)

A few days ago we went to the movies together. One of my exes (she is biracial -half black half white) was there with some of her friends. We don’t talk anymore but the break up was somewhat cordial and we dated for 2 years in high school. She greeted me and asked how I was doing. I said I was fine and then we moved on. My girlfriend started asking who she was and I was honest and said she was my ex. At the time she didn’t say anything else but after the movie she started going on about her and asked if I was only into black girls and how she didn’t know my exes were black.

This whole thing was really weird to me. The high school I went to was pretty diverse and I had a lot of black friends. I got teased by them sometimes for dating black girls but they were just joking. My gf on the other hand seemed dead serious and acted like I secretly withheld some information from her. I got defensive and said it shouldn’t matter. She then asked if all the girls I dated were black which I answered no because they honestly weren’t. She then started to specifically ask the race of the girls I dated and if I have slept with white girls. I thought this was bullshit and I didn’t want to justify the question with an answer so I said I wasn’t going to answer the question. She then got mad at me and said if it’s not a big deal why can’t I answer the question. I told her she was being stupid and coming across as racist. I decided to cut off the date short and parted ways.

The next day she texts me sorry and said she over reacted and she was just paranoid that I wasn’t really attracted to her and had the excuse that her ex was emotionally manipulative and made her feel ugly and cheated on her. I really don’t know what her ex cheating on her has to do with the race of the girls I dated in the past but she did come across as very apologetic and sincere. I really did like her before so I am honestly conflicted. This was our first fight.

Looking for other perspectives? I really liked her but this whole thing has been so weird. She’s coming across as possessive. Also not to be stereotypical but she was born and raised in a small town in Alabama until she was 15 and although she seemed smart and open minded this kinda makes me think she’s a secret hillbilly racist. Am I overreacting?

Tl;dr after finding out 2 of the girls I’ve dated in the past were black, girlfriend becomes confrontational about the race of the girls I am interested in. She Apologized later and blamed it to her being insecure about her appearance and her ex cheating on her.

Submitted October 02, 2018 at 09:24AM by NightmaresTonight https://ift.tt/2OyWPk4