I'm 23M, and my girlfriend is 22. We just moved in together. Her sex drive is much higher than mine. Shes drop dead gorgeous and I love her to death. I'm absolutely sexually attracted to her. But I just dont have the drive to have sex at the same rate that she does. I can't keep up with her. Secondarily, I'm honestly pretty inconsistent with sex. Sometimes its pornstar level stamina. Sometimes... you catch the drift. Who knows, maybe I have low testosterone or something. But I always make sure she gets off at least once when we get intimate. Every time without fail.
I've been trying things to work on it. But that's a different story. But if for whatever reason she doesnt get sex when she wants it. She gets legitimately mad. Sexual frustration turned up a level. We're busy people living our lives. Sometimes I'm just not in the mood, sometimes exhausted, or whatever other reason like its late and we need to get up early. But if she doesnt get sex if shes in the mood she gets really upset.
There are times I want sex and she isnt the mood and I dont say anything. I just say okay and move on. Its not that big a deal. Sex is fantastic, it's an important part of the relationship. But sometimes I feel like it's her priority and it's only ever on her terms. But I just dont crave it like she does. I'm just as happy cuddling and spending time together.
She also isn't very understanding of me working on consistency. And if sometimes round one is shorter than intended she makes snide comments instead of turning to foreplay for the always infinitely better round 2. And it's like the concept of round 2 or 3 doesn't even register to her. God forbid I want a glass of water between rounds because at that point sex is basically over and shes already taking off her makeup and getting ready for bed.
It makes sex so pressuring and its honestly part of why i dont want to have sex as much. I'm just worried my sexual performance is going to ruin my relationship. We just moved in together, stresses are high. I just started a new job. If she breaks up with me then I'm homeless basically. Which fun fact is not helping the sex drive.
I'm about to go home and we're supposed to have a talk about it. (My suggestion) We were drinking at a party last night and we were both absolutely wasted when we got home. I wasnt capable of walking much less having sex. I woke up to an angry text about it thismorning when I was leaving to have lunch with my family for my birthday. I have no clue how this conversation is going to go.
TL:DR my gf gets really sexually frustrated when she doesnt get sex, and my sex drive cant keep up with hers
Submitted August 21, 2022 at 04:09PM by CruderMermaid6 https://ift.tt/vxyj6JE
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