A Good Friend Is Pushing Me To Find A Relationship, I Don't Want To

I 34M was briefly married ten years ago, despite the marriage ending my ex and I lived together for some time, we got along and are still friends. She has and does see other people and has since moved out and moved on with her life, all of this is fine with me and water under the bridge. This is for context.

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A friend of mine has been pushing for me to find love again. She is close to me in age, and in a happily married. She and I have known each other since before I met my ex-wife. My Friend who I'll call Sam, has always been kind and supportive of me. Since being single I realized I did not want another relationship, I don't want to tie myself to another person because I learned a lot about myself.

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I am a lousy partner in a relationship, yes I am loving and affectionate and treat the other person with respect but all of the things I enjoy doing, are things I can do alone. Watching movies, reading books, playing video games, going for walks. I like being alone, which means anyone in a relationship with me may end up feeling neglected or lonely.

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So every now and again my friend Sam suggests I look for a relationship and tells me I have so much love to give, I do admit I have a big heart and when I am in a relationship or have a friendship I put a lot of effort into the people in my life. However having a big heart does not mean I belong with someone.

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We end up arguing about this every time, so I just told her this topic is one we should not talk about anymore, because I don't want to fight about it. She tells me it is unfair that I can just close off an entire topic of conversation like this. I ask you reddit what am I supposed to do?

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TL;DR: A good friend is pushing me to find a relationship, I don't want to and I closed the topic from our conversations, what else am I supposed to do?

Submitted January 12, 2022 at 02:58PM by Strange-Avenues https://ift.tt/3qmcLbG