Original post about the friend here https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/i3d0q0/my_daughters_19_best_friend_f20_of_14_years_is/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3
A couple of months ago I asked some advice here. My daughter's [19] friend of 14 years suddenly revealed who she truly is, a racist. (I should clarify that we are white.) It's been over 5 months and we haven't seen or spoken to her at all. Her parent's were here a month ago to ask if we still had contact with her because she cut them off to. But this post isn't about her. It's about my daughter. I feel like I'm losing her.
She has always (as my wife put's it) been my daughter. We would go fishing together, we are both massive geeks and would often go see movies together. We also love mysteries and would often times spend hours on here reading mysteries and playing ARG's but all of that has changed.
At first I thought it was just the initial trauma of losing a best friend. I gave her space but also made it clear that I'm there if she wants to talk. As a father I try my best to be there for my kids and I admit that I am not perfect. For the past five months she has been gravitating more and more to my wife and her brother. It might seem like jealousy but I promise it's not. I'm glad she has found things in common with my wife and I understand that she is growing up but it is as if she hates me.
She doesn't want to spend any time with me. Even when I offer for the four of us to play some board games together she would refuse. I got her a bunch of new video games for the holidays but after I told her we could play some together she just seemed to disassociate completely. I have tried to talk to her, I told her that if she no longer finds that stuff fun we could find something else but she just says she will think about it or 'yeah'.
My wife says that she just needs more time but I think she blames me for losing her friend, even though she agreed that it's for the best.
I don't know what to do. I feel like I'm losing my best friend.
TL;DR! My daughter no longer want's to spend any time with me and I don't know what to do.
Submitted January 02, 2021 at 02:37PM by GoldenGideon https://ift.tt/3b3YWrc
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