My(22F) fiancé(31M) said hurtful things about my weight and sex when he was complaint about HIS weight

To give some back story my fiancé has always been into fitness, he was worked at a gym for a bit and when we first started seeing each other he was really fit.

As our relationship and time went on he gained a few pounds nothing crazy. Then covid hit and it really took a toll on him, no gyms open etc.

So he gained like 20+ pounds.

I literally don’t care, he’s still probably the most fit partner I’ve had and at least ~average~ body type if not still fit. This has had no effect on me or how I feel about him.

I however have ALWAYS been very insecure about my stomach like my whole life. He’s very aware of this. He often talks about how he is overweight and fat and honestly I’m over it. He’s still more fit then me, I tell him I think he look great. I also tell him that all he has to do is start working out a little and muscle memory will do it’s work. But he brings it up SO much....and he doesn’t do any workouts or anything to change it. He still eats like a college kid with munchies 24/7. He only works 3 days a week now from home. I suggest lots of YouTube videos...again I DONT care...he keeps bringing it up.

So today he brings it up and I again say something along the lines of you have so much time now! You should start some yoga or stretching videos! He insists he doesn’t have time, i remind him he does. He tells me that I should workout on my day off and I tell him yea I only get 2 days off and work 50 hours and 1 of those days off we normally go to your family’s so I don’t think you can compare situations.

He then says ~you cover your stomach when we have sex so I don’t know what you’re saying~ I’m mortified. This is literally my biggest insecurity, I’ve already been having trouble getting turned on as I’ve been quite insecure myself.

I’m left the room and begun crying, he’s apologetic for like 5 mins then tells me I’m milking it. He instantly gets almost defensive and upset AT ME?!

Now we aren’t speaking and he is insisting I’m dragging it out. But I feel like there’s just a pattern of my fiancé saying hurtful or inconsiderate things that hurt me but then he just diminishes it.

He just doesn’t care that things he says to me has a lasting effect.

Tl;dr my fiancé said hurtful things, when he keeps bringing up the same topic

Submitted January 21, 2021 at 07:28PM by shealways-wished https://ift.tt/3658C17