My (23f) boyfriend (24m) have been together for 4 years, and we’ve lived together for about 8 months. I always knew he liked gaming, but he never really did it when we were hanging out so I didn’t know the extent of his habit until we moved in together.
I don’t really like video games, but I’ll dabble here and there. I own a switch, but I don’t play that often. I bought it thinking I could get into gaming and it would be something we would have in common, but I just generally don’t enjoy gaming, and I’m not very good at it. He also has said he isn’t really interested in playing with me, which is fine. The games that work with my skill ability are not what he would want to do. I get that.
But he spends all of his free time gaming. That is not a joke. He doesn’t watch tv or movies, he doesn’t lay around, if he is not working he is playing games. When we first moved in together and I noticed how much time he spent gaming, I asked him to spend a little bit more time with me because literally the only time he spent interacting with me was during meals. He got defensive and acted like I was trying to get between him and his friends, and basically told me that it’s not his fault that I’m bored and I need to find something to do on my own.
I thought it was something I could live with. Everyone has their interests and hobbies, but I honestly feel like this is excessive. He only spends time with me when I ask and as soon as we are done doing whatever thing (watching an episode, doing a craft, whatever) he immediately goes back to playing his games. To me, it’s just not attractive. I’m not making fun of him or trying to be mean, I just honestly don’t find that type of behavior/interest/activity attractive.
It’s taking it’s toll on our relationship. We rarely spend time together and when we do, I’m not really interested in any of what he wants to talk about. Things that I probably would have found funny about him before just annoy me now.
I guess my question is... how can I bring back the spark when he’s so committed to something I don’t find attractive? I don’t want to break up, but I don’t know if things can ever be the same as they were before we moved in together.
TL;DR: My boyfriend games all the time and it’s causing me to be less interested in him and the relationship. How do I bring the spark back?
Submitted January 21, 2021 at 07:51PM by PieceRevolutionary71 https://ift.tt/3c0VUnW
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