We've been together 8 months, and I greatly enjoy spending time with him.
The problem however, is that he has little to no social energy whenever I see him, some examples:
- If we're out and run into someone I know, I'll stop to talk to them and he'll keep walking
- Went for a bike ride together and towards the end of the ride he put headphones in and waved goodbye and cycled off home, no kiss or hug.
- Went to a restaurant, ate dinner and he wanted to leave immediately, I asked to stay a little longer, have another drink, maybe some dessert, he paid his half of the bill and walked off.
- We were chilling in bed after sex, I asked if he wanted to watch a movie, he asked what movie before saying he had to go, he casually chatted about the movie next time I saw him..
- We have barely spent any time at his place, when we have he seems visibly uncomfortable, he lives alone and it's like his sanctuary I guess, everything in its place all neat and tidy.
When I ask him about this stuff he just says he doesn't have the social capabilities of other people, and that this stuff really wittles him down and he just wants to be alone. He's super charismatic and charming, he actually seems pretty high energy a lot of the time, and is in good shape, not like he sits at home all day. He's just very introverted I guess.
This stuff doesn't always happen, but it's like a monthly thing at least, he'll just drop me to go spend time on his own. I get it, I like my own time too but it hurts sometimes just how little he seems to have. While I admire someone who knows what they want, it really sucks to have him just leave like that. The relationship is going well in other areas, and I really do love him but this being a regular occurrence is an issue for me.
Before you suggest it, no he's not cheating on me, his apartment is tiny and only houses him, I've met his friends and family too. Plus a couple of times I saw him sign in on Steam after leaving.
How can I talk to him about this? I don't mind him needing his own time, but if he's gonna do things like this then why not just stay home for the day instead? I'm honestly fine with him needing his own time, it's fine if he doesn't wanna hang out sometimes, I just wish he'd say so. It really sucks when he just leaves high and dry with no warning. I've wanted to talk to him about it but I'm honestly in shock and confusion when it happens and he seems very set in his ways.
TL;DR: Boyfriend of 8 months will up and leave when he is socially tired, no matter what we're doing, relationship is great otherwise but I don't know how to talk to him about this.
Submitted January 01, 2021 at 04:01PM by QuickBoyf https://ift.tt/3rMBa8T
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