Made a joke about my BF putting too much coke in his whiskey, he got really insulted by it, is that concerning or do you think I was out of line? And should I avoid such jokes in the future? Both m&f 30yr together 3.5 years.

My BF of 3yrs drinks and smokes quite a lot, he has beers and wine every night and spirits on weekends. He said from the start he never plans on stopping and being told to would only make him drink more. He's very healthy in other ways - extremely active, good muscles, doesn't eat any crap etc. He's much healthier than anyone I've been with before.

He does brag a lot about dangerous stuff he did in youth, e.g strapping fireworks to himself, getting arrested for drug possession (he doesn't do drugs now) and dangerous driving. I've never known him to do any of these things so assumed it was just some boyish thrills he was proud of for some reason. One thing though, is whenever we watch something and someone's throwing rocks at someone (you'd be surprised how many TV shows have that in) he always says "Throwing rocks at eachother was fun though." Like I always know it's coming, same for when someone sets something on fire. I normally ignore it, but the other night we were watching Sunny in Philadelphia and Mac and Charlie were throwing rocks at eachother, I waited for his comment and sure enough he said it yet again, "Throwing rocks at eachother was fun though." But this time I replied "Yeah, if you're 4." And he dropped it so I'm hoping that's the end of that lol.

Anyway last night he poured himself two glasses of whiskey and coke, just so he wouldn't have to pause TV again to go to the fridge after the first. I don't drink often so he made a joke of offering me one so he could say "suppose I'd better drink em both then" cos I do that with cookies sometimes.

I jokingly said "nah that's too much coke for me ;)" and to my surprise he got REALLY OTT offended by that. He was smiling a huge fake smile, not shouting or anything, but wouldn't drop it for ages. He went "Fuck off its half and half! That's really insulting like I don't know how to drink." And then he got me to try it and it was stronger than it looked, but I said I'd normally have whiskey with only a dash of coke.

I probably shouldn't have bought it up again but I was really giggling at his reaction because it was so over the top and out of no where. So later when guy on TV poured a glass of whiskey and I jokingly said "needs more Coke ...he should take a leaf out of your book" to which my BF set off again "fuck off mines stronger, it's half and half..." And went on a huge rant about how strong his drinks are and how much he can handle etc like it was really impressive.

I dropped it then because I could tell it was bothering him and I felt guilty because I'd obviously gone too far, so I apologised for that. But I also feel it's odd he was so insecure about someone suggesting he was drinking 'weak' drinks. He even said "I'll have it neat next time fuck sake!"

Do you think this is concerning or do you think it's something that men are insecure about and that me suggesting he is a lightweight might have actually been really bad on my part? Since drinking is his passion?

TL:Dr: I made a mild joke about my BF putting too much coke in his whiskey and it really set him off, is this concerning or was I out of line for commenting?

Submitted January 23, 2021 at 01:49AM by throwawayhex134 https://ift.tt/368oP5L