I'm a first time pregnant 30F wife who is sad about her husband's (30M) lack of emotional support. How can I make it better?

My husband strongly believes in equality and independence. He's not an emotional person and is an introvert. On the other hand, I'm emotional and an extrovert who expresses her feelings a lot. So if I'm mad, I shout, if I'm sad I cry and if I'm happy I hug, kiss and celebrate. He's not that kind of a person and doesn't like displaying his affection.

He believes that I can take care of myself and if I need something I can ask him. While this was okay before, I feel emotionally drained and need him to give me extra non verbal love like hugs, cuddles, sweet talk etc. Especially now because I'm already going through so much physically with the morning sickness, tiredness and general changes. He does help out with the cooking, cleaning and taking care of the chores part but it's the emotional distance that's hurting me. He doesn't talk unless it's about the chores or budget. He never initiates a conversation about how I'm feeling, or plans for the baby. I work full time too and I go to grad school so I understand work stress. I'm to be blamed too at times when I get mad unnecessarily but I say sorry immediately and try to move on.

If I try telling him all this, he says why don't you initiate and it becomes a big fight. I feel like I'm always the one initiating emotional intimacy. And I deserve better during this time. Am I being unreasonable? What can I do?

TL;DR: my husband is emotionally distant from me while helping me with chores. It's the emotional distance that's hurting me especially when I'm going through a lot physically and mentally.

Submitted January 24, 2021 at 10:14AM by palC10 https://ift.tt/39cwvG6