Hello Reddit. I’ll get straight to it. On New Year’s Eve my boyfriend (26M) was hit by a drunk driver when we were crossing the road, he smacked his head and he’s been in a coma ever since. The doctors are giving him 10 days and after that his life support is being cut off, he won’t wake up, they explained to me what’s wrong with him and I did my own research, it’s very clear he’s essentially dead and barring some freak of nature miracle, he’s dead in 10 days.
His family have arranged a little get together the day it’s due to happen, I’ve been invited to go but I don’t think I can, I just don’t think I can stand there and watch as he dies, I just can’t. Issue is I am sort of obligated to go, his family quite literally took me in when I came to the UK from Kosovo and for the last 14 years that I’ve know them they have pretty much been my family too, his older sister (28F) is one of my closest friends and quite literally the reason I can speak English fluently now. I love them all and I owe them a lot.
I spoke to his sister and voiced my concerns, she was pretty upset and lashed out a bit before telling me I need to reconsider and she won’t tell the rest of the family in the hope that I will. I can’t and I won’t reconsider this though, I genuinely cannot watch this.
How do I handle this? They are all obviously distraught themselves and I don’t want to hurt them further or make them think I don’t care, I really do and I love them all but I cannot do this. How do I even approach this conversation with them? Due to COVID I can’t have this conversation in person either which just makes it harder.
I can’t go to anyone else for advice so I’m coming here. My friends are all lovely people but they’re quite sheltered and wouldn’t be able to help me with this. I have no one else I can confide in about this.
TLDR: Boyfriend was hit by a car and is in a coma, he will be taken off life support in 10 days. His family want everyone to be there including me but I can’t watch him die. I love his family and am worried I will hurt them and I don’t even know how to approach this conversation.
Submitted January 23, 2021 at 12:36PM by KosovanGirl https://ift.tt/3peocPJ
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