TLDR: My(46M) daughter (18F) saw me packing my girlfriend's (36F) daughter's (11 M)Christmas present and is very hurt and offended by it.
Long Story:
I have three kiddos (18F, 16F, 13M), I am the custodial parent so all three live with me. My GF (38F) of 4 months has and 11 month old. For Christmas I bought her daughter several board books that I used to read my kiddos. These were books I first started reading to the oldest, then because I loved them so much read them to the other two when they came along. So, since I love these stories, I of course think they are the best stories and so I wanted to share them with her.
So tonight as I was wrapping them to put under the tree my oldest walked into my room. She saw the stack of favorite baby books and thinking they were our old copies asked why I was wrapping them. I explained that these were not our copies and I had ordered new copies of them for the baby. She screams that I am "stealing my kids' memories" and storms out.
I gave her a few minutes to calm down and tried to talk to her, but she was unwilling to open her door. The only reply I got was that she was not talking, promising she had nothing to say to me till I promised I would not give my GF's kid her baby books.
That was a few hours ago, but apparently, it has gotten bigger. My ex-wife, who I have been divorced from over 5 years after she had an affair, texted to say it was gross that I would be doing this to the kids. My 16 and 13 year olds know now too, and they agree with me and think their sister is being stupid throwing a fit over it. Apparently, she called my mom too, because my mom called to take my daughter's side and say I should not give the baby these books because these books were between me and my kids.
So I am seriously like WTF! They're books! They're not family heirlooms. It's not even like I am
giving my kids copies, there just books ordered from Amazon. I could maybe get this if I was some distant father who hardly saw my children and she felt like I wanted to "replace" them with my GF's baby; but she and her siblings LIVE WITH ME! Tomorrow morning I will drive her to work and in the afternoon I will pick her up because she does not drive. I am in her and her siblings' lives every day, no one is being replaced. My GF isn't like trying to move in and take one of their rooms for her daughter, when she spends the night the baby sleeps in the laundry room. Like, there is no reason she should feel threatened by this baby, so I don't get it.
Is my 18yr old, Ex-wife, and mom right? Should I dump the books and find something else for the baby?
Submitted December 03, 2020 at 10:38PM by FrustratedSingleDad https://ift.tt/37EuBfi
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