My ex (f, 23) wants to get back together if she can be with me (m, 31) almost anytime she wants and I'm not sure if this is a red flag

My former SO (f, 23) and I (m, 31) were in a relationship for about 11 months until we broke up four weeks ago. She suffers from anxiety, depression, and other physical issues that made our relationship one-sided and difficult for me. Over time, we developed a weird dynamic where she started to point out that I'm not supportive enough while I didn't feel acknowledged for the support I was trying to give.

After the last incident (we had several) that had the usual pattern of me visiting and comforting her while she is in a sad, apathetic, or devestated state, I felt so helpless and overwhelmed that I didn't know what to do anymore and broke up with her. After that, she went to a friend's place in another state to get emotional support. She is staying at his place for over four weeks now (they are friends only and nothing more if this is important).

Yesterday, she reached out to me and said that she would be willing to reconsider the relationship if I would be able to give her the emotional support she needs. She said that her mental health is in a better but still fragile state and that she needs a group of people (consisting of at least 1 person) that she can be with almost anytime she wants. If I cannot meet this need, she will move to an apartment in that other city close to where her friend lives in order to have someone she can rely on. She points out that this friend feels comfortable with having her around all the time while I always seemed to feel hesistant when she reached out when she needed support and didn't feel well. It is true that I'm a person who needs time to recharge, especially after I was physically supporting her for a day or two when she was devestated or extremely sad. She also shared her thoughts that what seems natural to her might not be natural to me or is not aligned with how I feel about her.

I'm not sure what to do now. I love her but she makes me feel inadequate in the support I was giving over the course of our relationship by showing me that her friend is totally fine with her being there for weeks ongoing. But is her request to get back together under her proposal to see me (almost) anytime she wants toxic? Should I step away from that or is it worth to give it another try?

TL;DR: My ex (f, 23) proposed to get back together with me (m, 31) if she can meet me almost anytime she wants when she feels bad. Is this a red flag?

Submitted November 04, 2020 at 01:50PM by Ok-Car-7498 https://ift.tt/364XBfx