My [29/F] fiancé (who was my ex at the time) [29/M] paid my expensive medical bills after I had an accident, and no one thought I deserved to know.

When I was 23, I went on a trip with my friends. I had an accident and ended up with an expensive medical bill since I was dumb and didn’t get medical travel insurance. My parents flew to me since I was unconscious for a few days, and they needed someone to make medical decisions on my behalf. When I was getting ready to leave the hospital, I remember asking my parents how much it cost. At the time I was still in a lot of pain and drugged up on pain meds, so I didn’t really question it when they told me our home government covered it and to not worry about it.

Fast forward to now and my ex (we broke up a few months before the trip) is now my fiancé. We reconnected about four years ago and in all of that time he has never once mentioned the trip or the accident. He also had the opportunity to tell me what he did because on one of our first dates I told him the story about it. He acted like it was the first time he had heard the story. It’s also been brought up since then, including after we got engaged. Yet, he’s never mentioned it.

I found out the truth a few days ago when a friend who went on the trip with me made a comment about how she always knew we would end up married after he paid for and took care of everything so my parents didn’t have to worry whilst I was in hospital. I asked her a lot of questions about what really happened after my accident and she told me the truth but kept apologising because she thought my family/fiancé would’ve told me about it by now.

When I asked him about it, he denied it at first but eventually admitted it. He kept saying it wasn’t a big deal and he doesn’t understand why I’m angry at everyone who knew. My family have the same view. My friends are all acting shocked that no one told me, and they insist they would’ve if they knew I didn’t know.

Honestly, I don’t know why I’m angry either, but I can’t help but feel like my family, fiancé and friends betrayed me in a way by not telling me. I get not saying anything initially, but at least after our engagement someone should’ve mentioned it to me. I guess part of me is posting this for validation that being upset at them for lying isn’t an overreaction, but I would also like advice on how to get past this. How do I stop being so upset with everyone?

TL;DR – My fiancé covered the medical bills (and additional costs) after I had an accident abroad, even though we had already broken up. We eventually got back together and are engaged but no one who knew about it, including my fiancé and family, have ever mentioned it to me. I found out by accident and I can’t help feeling upset and betrayed that no one thought I deserved to know.

Submitted November 21, 2020 at 05:13PM by ThrowRAmedicalbills https://ift.tt/2IYCrIu