TLDR: My boyfriend told me he thought it would be funny to make me get a security alert email.
Today my boyfriend was asking me to talk to him in a call. So as soon as I got to my break at work I called him. In the call he said that last night he was planning on pranking me by giving my email a new device log in security alert. He says he attempted to log into my email and clicked on account recovery and he put his phone number there as he had selected that he didn't have access to any of the recovery options.
As he was telling me about this he kept repeating over and over that he was sorry and he would do anything to make it up to me.
I asked him how he thought that could be a prank and he just said that it was late at night and he could not explain how/what he was thinking at the time.
I had to undo the added phone number on the account and have been changing my passwords for everything.
I feel like my trust was betrayed. A prank that would give me a potentially anxiety inducing email doesn't sound like much of a prank to me. And I have a nagging fear that it wasn't meant to be a prank in the first place. Part of me feels like it was an attempt to snoop into my accounts and that he might have told me about it because he realized it will remind me about the changed phone number when I went to check my email and that I could recognize it as his.
He says that it didn't require him to do anything besides input any phone number to recover the account but I am not so sure about that. And even if that is true, I am still not sure about it being a prank. He hasn't done anything like snooping before, at least not as far as I am aware. But I do know that he has relationship anxieties because someone cheated on him in the past.
I know I will need to sit down and talk to him about how this made me feel at some point but I don't want to listen to him repeat "I am so sorry just tell me what I can do to make it up to you, I will do anything" over and over. Right now I am just taking some time to sit and think.
What is the appropriate level of reaction for something like this? Did my boyfriend just try to do a phenomenally bad prank, or do I have something bigger to worry about?
EDIT UPDATE:
I remembered that my email keeps records for the log ins and he had been logging into my account over the last two days.
Submitted May 01, 2020 at 06:39PM by wailingflamingo https://ift.tt/3d96hn6
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