We live together and have been living together for a year now and he hattttesss cooking. I love to cook, especially when it’s for others/my partner. My boyfriend is very, very picky-meaning I have a very limited amount of recipes I can cook. He makes it very clear that he hates home cooked meals and loves to eat out, so I know that I can’t compete with restaurants (which I’m already aware of). We decided to eat more at home after he gained 40 pounds and we went out and bought a ton of groceries. Every single time I cook for him he has a criticism. I don’t think there was ever a time where he just said it’s good. It’s always super nit picky stuff like oh it needed a little less lemon, it needed an extra 20 sec in the oven, it’s perfect but the chicken is a tiny bit dry. And when the chicken is perfectly tender he’s scared it’s undercooked. I know he’s trying to help and I know my cooking isn’t perfect but it’s healthy and edible, so I’m happy with it. I’ve talked to him about maybe cooling off on the criticism but he tells me it’s just how he and his family communicate and that he’s trying to improve it so we can make it perfect. Another thing is that when I ask if he wants to cook blank today or something it’s always “I’m okay with that” and a shrug-no enthusiasm or happiness in his voice. It makes me not want to cook anything for him because I feel like he’s being forced to eat this nasty food when all he really wants is Sushi or something. I don’t know I usually love to cook in relationships but I’m feeling very discouraged. It’s not like a deal breaker or anything but I hate that when I tell him how it makes me feel he just explains why he says it that way. It’s never like “I’ll try to be less depressed about it” or anything.
Tl;dr: Am I being too sensitive about my boyfriends reaction to my food or are my feelings appropriate? Should I just ignore this or talk to him again?
Submitted January 04, 2020 at 12:54PM by serenity_wow https://ift.tt/36q3Olc
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