I have never been able to forgive the kind of people who either don't apologise and instead overcompensate with kindness (usually because they are too proud to openly admit their mistake) or are bad at apologising (for example the "sorry that YOU were hurt by..." or "sorry that YOU interpreted the situation like that...". I get the feeling that they don't take me seriously. Or that they truly do not understand what they did wrong and just want to move on.
For some reason I have only learned how to forgive people that have given me a sincere apology. I get somehow blinded by the fact that I think it's so bad to not be able to own up to your mistake in an open and sincere way that I forget how wonderful this person has been otherwise.
I think I lack the compassion for people who are like this, because apologising when I fuck up has never been an issue for me. And my relationships are never the same once and if that ever happens.
I have the feeling that this way of thinking is too stern. But I don't know how to change it. What do you think?
TL;DR: I would love some insight into how one can go about forgiving somebody who sucks at apologising.
Submitted August 25, 2019 at 03:24AM by mingus5x https://ift.tt/2NtnNc5
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