My Live-in BF (35M) and I (36F) have been together for 2 years. We’ve formally lived together for 9 months but prior to that he stayed at my place 7 nights a week since a couple of months into dating.
He left the/his house the other night to go to a planned hobby and texted me about an hour later that he was at his sisters house and wanted me to “pack a bag, take the dogs, and leave” claiming he needed space. I no longer have my separate house. He never goes to his sister’s house. It was extremely out of the ordinary for him to be there.
I even got a message from his sister saying that she’s never seen him so stressed and just to give him the weekend to chill out. I asked if it could wait until the next day since it was late and I was already in bed and not feeling well (which he knew) and he insisted it be immediate or he was sending his sister to pick up his dog and not coming home.
I didn’t want to cause more stress and so I had my Dad come pick me and my two dogs up.
After I left, I got texts saying that he wasn’t in to me and didn’t want to be with me any longer. He basically started saying the opposite of things he’s said our entire relationship and opposite of things he’d said even earlier that day and in that week. When I questioned that, he said “listen to what I’m saying now. Not what I said in the past.” I stated that the past couldn’t be counted from three hours earlier and he got angrier.
He’s been giving me the silent treatment for the past 3 days when he’s explicitly talked about how stupid and childish that is (his ex used to do it to him all the time). He told my Dad I was stalking him (not true), and harassing his sister (not true). I responded to his sisters message to me saying that I was concerned about this erratic behavior and that he’s been feeling depressed. I told him that I’d give him some space and was here for him... whatever he needed... and said, “you’re my best friend. Just talk to me. You’re worrying me.”
He’s a generally grumpy (but lovable) person with a super short fuse and big reactions. Typically if he blows up, I let him process, and then he comes back to normal, apologizes, and tells me he’s thankful that I listen and let him vent it out.
Two days prior, he had come home from work hugging me and saying he was thinking and he knows he’s too hard on me, but that he loves me and likes me around. He also reiterated to me that he likes to mess with me and give me a hard time but to know I’m always in on the joke and not to worry. It’s something he’s said to me and our friends regularly. Even telling our friends that I take him seriously when he’s never being serious.
We have short term plans, as well as long term plans to move out of the country in the works (his idea). My belongings are all still there, and I still have keys. He’s made it clear to my Dad that if I come near him or try to contact him that he’ll call the police and tell them that I’m stalking him.
My Dad is also super concerned by his sudden and erratic behavior. My Dad said, “it’s like someone flipped a switch on his personality.” His sister hasn’t responded but did read my message.
We’ve never gone more than a few hours between talking. He truly is my best friend. We talk about everything and check in multiple times a day. He had activities all weekend and uncharacteristically posted on Instagram 10 pictures in two days. He hates social media, recently erased his Facebook, and posts to Instagram MAYBE once a month. He started a new job today... not a word. I have a big second job interview tomorrow... not a word.
What is going on? I’m concerned about his mental state. Help! ——————————————————————————
TL;DR
My Live-in BF (35M) and I (36F) have been together for 2 years.
He texted me that he wanted me to “pack a bag, take the dogs, and leave” claiming he needed space.
Then I received texts later that night saying “he’s not into me and wants to break up” out of the blue.
He’s been giving me the silent treatment for the past 3 days. He told my Dad I was stalking him (not true), and harassing his sister (not true). And said if I try to contact him that he’ll go to the police.
What is going on? I’m concerned for his mental state.
Submitted August 26, 2019 at 11:14PM by ellolovelies https://ift.tt/2L9qVqI
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