My boyfriend (23M) just told me (21F) about his previous crush and I don't know how to work through my own feelings.

I'm feeling rather upset at myself right now because I foolishly told my boyfriend about two crushes I previously had before I met him, without thinking about the consequences (e.g. how that might make him feel and whether I was ready to hear about any of his previous crush/s.)

The reason why I brought it up in the first place was because we were talking about a friend of mine who enjoys bringing up "embarrassing drama" as stories to tell to others and the events surrounding my two previous crushes was her favourite story to bring up about me.

So my boyfriend tells me about his previous crush with specific details and I discover it lasted for a really long time and that they were still talking a month after we started dating. I realise afterwards that I wasn't ready to hear about all this and I'm not sure how to work through these negative feelings of insecurity and jealousy. I thought the foundations of our relationship were strong enough and that I was emotionally mature enough but I can see now that it may not be the case. I'm uncertain if I should be talking to him about this or if I should just take a step back and adjust my emotions? I can see it's my fault for bringing up this topic without having considered how being the person on the receiving end of the story would feel.

I just don't know what I should do or feel or anything really.

TL;DR - Boyfriend and I have been dating for 9 months, I foolishly talk about my previous crushes and he reciprocates with his, and now I feel terrible. How do I work through these negative emotions?

Submitted February 24, 2019 at 05:48AM by xxcalitheros https://ift.tt/2U65w4U