My [29F] boyfriend [28m] doesn't like going out and doesn't understand my need to go out sometimes. I'm getting stir crazy.

So my boyfriend and I have been only dating for 4 months and I do really like him. I'll go to his place at least once during the week after work and make dinner, we'll watch a couple hours of Netflix then I'll go home. He gets up for work at around 5 am while I don't have to wake up till 7 am so it just makes sense for me to just go home and sleep. Then I'll come back for the weekend.

So I work in an office from 9-5 and I don't really have any coworker friends nor really any friends in the city. They're all pretty dispersed out - about an hour drive to anyone. So all week I'm stuck in this boring as fuck cubicle then I go home and just do whatever. My boyfriend I admit has a really difficult shift. He works at 6 am and doesn't get home till about 745 pm. He's in construction. Therefore he's pretty understandably tired a lot. For example the times I go over during the week, we'll eat and he'll start to fall asleep within 20 minutes of a movie or show.

Anyway, so once the weekend comes, I am stoked to go finally do something. He doesn't like doing ANYTHING. He's the type that's like "why go get a drink when we have alcohol at home? Why go see a movie when I can just download a movie here? Why eat dinner somewhere when we can eat dinner here?". He does not understand my need to go out and do something whether that's gathering a couple of HIS friends and going to a bar or something or just us if he doesn't want to see his friends. I get stir crazy staying in all day every day. When Friday comes I need to go out and do something. I don't need to go get wrecked wasted but I do want to go to a bar and have a few drinks, or go bowling, or do anything. He doesn't get it. He'll say things like "Why do you need to go out? it's not like you're there to talk to anyone. Unless you want to go and flirt with guys" which he says half-joking which I say yeah I want to flirt with guys in front of my boyfriend.

I then ask him to message his friends or sister and see what they're up to and maybe we can get a couple people out to which he'll roll his eyes and makes a grunt/sigh sound, then I just feel like this annoying yippy girl. Then if we DO go out, it's all on ME. So if we go somewhere that's boring it's my fault, if we go somewhere and we have to stand in line for a bit then it's my fault (he never actually says that but that's how I feel when I'm the only one wanting to do something) So I'll be like "Is there anywhere you want to go? Anything you want to do?" to which he'll be like "NooOoOpe this is YOUR night. We're doing this for you!" so I feel like I need to throw a massive parade just to make it worth his while.

It's not like we don't stay in for him. Last weekend we stayed in and watched Game of Thrones and made drinks to which he started falling asleep at around 1030 pm. I ended up just going home to play video games while he went to bed.

Am I being needy and annoying? I just get mad cabin fever and I need to go out and do something! Sometimes I need to just put on a nice outfit, some nice makeup and go downtown. So example tonight... I just got home from work and he is almost home (we both get off early on most Fridays) and I asked through text what he wanted to do and he said "not sure haven't really thought about it" and I know it's going to be me going over and starting up the whole "Sooo can we just go for like one drink somewhere?" and he'll whine about it.

I know yall going to say we're incompatible and we probably are... but I do really like him and I'd like to see where this goes... it's just this one thing that leaves me feeling like this.

TLDR: Boyfriend hates going out and doesn't understand my need to go out. I get really bored and stir crazy. I don't know what to do.

Submitted February 01, 2019 at 01:56PM by Boyfriendisboring1 http://bit.ly/2TnSC1L