Hello Everyone, please forgive my English it's not my normal language. My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years and have been mostly happy together. Most of this time my girlfriend has had depression and self confidence issues and we have tried to find ways to make her feel better. Maybe a year ago I was in a bad accident with a car and was thrown off my bicycle. My leg doesn't work as well as it did as I now walk with a small limp and sometimes I have pain in other places, my brain was also somewhat hurt but I had a helmet, sometimes it takes me longer to remember things than it did before and I get depressed more often so I do puzzles to help me and hope one day I will get better.
In the last few months especially my girlfriend has changed a lot. She has made new friends, started going to the gym and lost weight and has more confidence and less depression. She seems less happy to be with me these days, and does not help with her part of chores anymore. When I ask her if we can go on a date she already has plans with her friends and gets upset with me if I ask her to make a plan for a date another time. When she gets mad at me these days she will call me names or ruin my puzzles. I have asked her why shes behaving this way now and she says she's happier with herself now. When I get upset with her for her actions she will put my stuff upstairs because I cannot get up the stairs very easily or pushes me out of the way as my balance is not too strong. If we argue she will say I said things I didn't and tell me I must not remember, but my memory isn't as bad as she acts like it is.
I have asked to meet her new friends and she tells me she doesn't want them to know me. We don't have sex very much anymore but I most miss spending time with her. I don't understand why she is behaving this way. When she was sad and needed help I was there for her, I let her move into my home and did my best to be positive in her life. After my accident I did not ask her to take care of me, I did my best not to bother her and take care of myself and even though I'm not the same I'm still able to go out and do most things for myself. I am not useless so she does not have to feel like I am a burden.
I feel like I'm no longer good enough for her. We were happy for a long time before my accident but now I fear she's replaced me with her new friends and because of my accident and how I am she doesn't want me anymore now that she has lost weight and feels better about herself. I don't have many other people in my life. What can I do to make her love me like she used to? She says she still wants to be with me but I don't feel like she does. Is there a way I can make her treat me better again?
tl;dr I had an accident and my girlfriend has changed as a person.
Submitted February 02, 2019 at 12:02PM by ParkingClimate http://bit.ly/2S4ChTe
No comments:
Post a Comment