My [21F] boyfriend’s [23M] best friend’s girlfriend tells him intimate details about what she likes during sex. I feel uncomfortable.

So, my boyfriend had two close friends, a guy and a girl, who he set up together. Now they have been dating for a few months.

I’ve never met either of these people so I can’t judge but there are some weird things going on, and I don’t know if I’m just being sensitive.

First of all, this best friend’s girlfriend texts my boyfriend all the time. Which isn’t that odd, seeing as they were originally friends. But my boyfriend says he always feels like he has to tell his friend when they text or hang out together, just to be polite.

Secondly, he told me that she’s going to ‘hate me’ when she firsts meets me. I asked why. He said firstly because I was prettier - he showed her a picture from my social media before our first date and she coached him on what to say to me, what questions to ask etc.

Then, secondly, he said that she always gets ‘a bit protective or jealous’ if he’s hooking up with or dating a new girl. This made me a bit concerned because she’s meant to be in a happy relationship. I don’t see why she would get jealous of a girl dating her friend unless she had feelings for him that she wasn’t being honest about.

But the thing that really alarmed me was her messages and general conversation about what she likes in bed. She asked him after we first slept together if I was any good, and without revealing too much, my boyfriend essentially said he was surprised by what I was into and didn’t expect it from me etc.

Which prompted this girl to start discussing explicitly what she likes during sex. Almost trying to one up me? Saying that she loved being called bad names and being ‘abused’, slapped, rough sex etc, which is similar to my preferences.

This is what I’m worried about. Because, as a female, I would never explicitly reveal what I liked in bed to a guy unless I thought I had a shot with him, and was essentially trying to turn him on or be suggestive. I wouldn’t even be that explicit with my female friends who I’m not trying to sleep with. Is that just me?

I don’t really know if it’s my place to say anything, or whether this is just what a close friendship between different sexes looks like and I haven’t experienced it yet.

I’ve been in a relationship in which I was separated from my friends. And I don’t want to do that to him. I’ve also had an ex’s female friend be jealous and downright rude to me despite barely knowing me, and if I can avoid that high school drama, I will. Any and all advice welcome please!!

Tl;Dr - my boyfriend’s best friend’s girlfriend tells him intimate details about what she likes during sex etc. I feel weird but maybe I am being too sensitive?

Submitted February 24, 2019 at 07:38AM by lolitalolitalol https://ift.tt/2EbWnBh