I (28m) am at a crossroads in 2 year relationship with my live-in girlfriend (29f) and I'm unsure how to proceed.

We've lived together for about a year now, together for almost two. For the most part I feel as if we have a great relationship although we are different in many ways.

So I just got a job offer I can't turn down to move to Atlanta (8 hours away). My GF doesn't like ATL at all and isn't a big fan of moving but she said she's willing to do it for me.

I've had some lingering doubts about the relationship but nothing huge, I know that's common. Just wondering if we are really a fit for a lifelong relationship since she doesn't want to live in a big city like ATL and I do. She wants to get married soon and maybe have kids and I'm not sure if/when I want to do that. She says she's ambivalent about the kids part but I get the feeling it means more to her than she lets on. She's made a lot of comments about us "making cute kids" and once in an argument mentioned that if we aren't going to be together long term she only has a few years left where she can have kids.

I guess I had this fairytale idea in my head that this would all be easy. That I'd find a partner and I'd never question marriage, kids or any of it. The fact that I have these doubts makes me wonder if this is something we should both be doing.

If we are staying together it seems like she wants to get married within the next year or so, maybe kids after that. I definitely don't want kids in the next year or two but that seems like it could be very important to her and I don't want to stay in this relationship and deprive her of the opportunity to have kids. I could see getting married sometime in the near term I guess, it's not really important to me but I know she feels pressured by her family that if she is going to move with me and we live together that we make it "official" I don't agree but I understand her feeling that way.

I'm going to talk to her about this tomorrow in more depth, I just wanted to hear some outside perspective. I'm leaning towards the "If you aren't sure about this then that is itself a sign" and that we shouldn't make this big move and life change when I'm so uncertain. The thought of leaving her makes me sick though, I really do love her and she's a great partner. It's so strange, I'll go through a day when I think "I don't think we should be doing this" and then I'll go back to "no, she is great and you just need to work through this". It's almost like it's making me crazy.

Or are these doubts normal and I should just keep working through them and committing to the relationship?

Thanks for any advice.

TL;DR: With GF of two years, about to make a big cross country move and unsure about the relationship. She wants a firm commitment with marriage, etc. and I don't know if that's the right move. Just wondering how I should feel about my doubts/fears here.

Submitted February 24, 2019 at 06:02AM by jixingo https://ift.tt/2Tfgacq