How do I [28F] communicate with my husband [32M] about my love language without making him feel bad.

My husband's love language is acts of service & quality time and mine is receiving gifts and words of affirmation. I just like gifts not necessarily something expensive, a shell off the beach, a wild flower... A book I mentioned once I wanted to read.. it just makes me really happy to know he was thinking of me. We already discussed the concept of love languages before and I make sure to love him in the way he likes (acts of service) but when I try to discuss about my love language, he gets defensive saying I don't know what you're complaining about, everything's perfect (well I made pretty sure of that). He blames himself for not being enough or accuses me of seeing only the negative side of the relationship. I do appreciate his acts of a service towards me but something still feels missing and I begin thinking wishfully about him communicating his love with me in my love language, atleast sometimes.

TL;DR: How do I communicate with my husband about my love language without upsetting him.

Submitted February 01, 2019 at 10:16PM by InsaneGrape1988 http://bit.ly/2DPz6pO