Curious if anyone else notices a similar effect in their lives.
I’ve noticed that as I’ve gotten older (I’m 31) the further removed I feel from others. This includes both old friends and new acquaintances. I assume this is natural considering as we age, we all have more responsibilities and fall in to our own lives much more deeply. I get that.
But when I hang out with old friends, or start meeting new people in life, I’ve found that it’s hard not to feel like the connection is never right anymore.
With old friends, I tend to get the sense that they are looking down on me, or not connecting as deeply as we used to. Or that they don’t understand me and my life.
In other words, when I speak to them, I tend to feel that I’m a child, speaking to an adult. This feeling seems to be pretty universal across the board unless I’m speaking with someone In the same field as me (I work in entertainment both in my 9 to 5 and my side gig)
Being in entertainment and/or living as an artist, your worldview is admittedly a little different from the ordinary 9 to 5’er in any other field, but I don’t think it constitutes such a shift in interpersonal communication, especially with people you’ve grown up with.
I’ve noticed I feel a similar effect when speaking to some of my co-workers at my 9 to 5 job. Im on a completely different wavelength than them, and it obviously affects the relationships.
The only time I don’t feel this way, is when I’m working with a client via my side gig (shooting music videos.) Clients are often art-centered and their worldview seems to be much more in line with mine. The connection is there. We may become friends through the process, but at the end of the day they are still clients.
This issue makes me feel super awkward all the time, but I kinda just try not to focus on it. I also do my best to connect with others by focusing on what’s going on in their lives and trying to expand on that instead.
At the end of the day though, it’s hard to shake the feeling, and it always feels like it’s looming over me throughout my life and in almost every single relationship (yes, even those made in my dating life)
So... anyone have a similar experience? Any thoughts on this? Advice?
TL;DR! The older I get, the more I feel like a child speaking to an adult when speaking with friends and co-workers.
Submitted February 01, 2019 at 10:23AM by vinersking http://bit.ly/2G5wO8m
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