"My (27M) friend (26M) started dating someone (27F). She doesnt know about his drug problems, should I tell her?

Hi guys.

So my friend recently started dating a new girl that I'm a passing aquaintance with. She is the sister of one of my sisters friends, and from what i heard of hear and from our interactions, she seems like a really nice girl. Normally id be happy for him and for her, but he has had a bunch of issues with drugs in the past, and keeps having them till this day. He got sentenced for 4 years parole for weed distribution and growing, lost his license two times because of driving under influence, got his ass beat by dealers, lost all his money and documents while on ketamine, and cant go a single day without snorting at least a line of coke (we had to take a "coke break" when we went skiing last winter for example). None of that stopped him from getting high and selling, and currently he has his license suspended again and has gotten a court order for a rehab before he gets it back.

Now, I wouldnt think of getting involved, if the girl actually knew what she was getting into. But a few weeks ago we asked him if she knows about his drug habit, and he just kinda grinned and said "hehe, well, not all of it, thats for sure!". Now that just rubs me the wrong way in so many levels.

So, do I tell her? Is it my place to tell her? Or do I just let her find out for herself? Im honestly not really that concerned about him getting pissed if I tell her, because we barely talk anymore. We used to be great friends and played in bands together, but because of drugs we grew apart in the last few years, to the point where I see him like 3 or 4 times a year.

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tl;dr: my friend started dating a new girl, but is hiding the extent of his drug habit from her. Should I tell her or just let her deal with it herself?

Submitted October 02, 2018 at 04:25AM by w0mbatina https://ift.tt/2P8mDkp