My fiancé is great and I love him very much. There's one small issue that I'm wondering if/how I should address with him. My fiancé gets pretty comfortable with people and sometimes can be a little bit moochy. Maybe out of pride, I don't like feeling like I'm taking anything from people, or at least not taking more than I'm giving, so it makes me a bit uncomfortable.
To give a couple examples, we recently went on a trip for his friends wedding. While on the trip we met up with one of my finances high school friends Joe and his girlfriend Sarah (second or third time meeting Sarah).
We went to a bar and Sarah said she was hungry and ordered some small appetizer for herself, which was a plate with about 8 or so small pieces of fish. When the server brought out her plate, he brought out extra plates thinking the whole table would be sharing the appetizer. Sarah, being polite, offered us all a piece, which my fiancé gladly accepted. That was fine but a few mins later he reached in and took another piece of her fish. I asked him if he was hungry and wanted to order something and he said no he was good. A few mins later we were having a discussion about chopsticks, and my fiancé picked up his chopsticks and picked up another piece of Sarah's fish to demonstrate the right way to hold chopsticks. I asked him again if he wanted to order some food and he said "oh no I'm just showing off my chopstick skills" and ate the fish.
Sarah was polite about it but I honestly felt like he was eating too much from her small plate, and didn't realize she was just offering to be polite, not to share half her food with him.
Later, we went to the beach with the same couple. When we got to the beach my fiancé wanted some water, and asked me for my water bottle. I realized I had forgotten it at the hotel and told him we could go to the convenience store to get a bottle. He then asked Joe if he could have a drink of his water, which Joe gave to him. After being in the water for a bit, my fiancé and I came back to the sand while Joe and Sarah were still in the water. My fiancé wanted more water and I said let's walk to the store and get some (maybe 5 min walk each way). But my fiancé said "nah I'll just have some of Joes" and picked up Joes bottle and drank from it freely. I said that I think we should get our own bottle and not drink Joe and Sarah's water, and he was like "don't worry Joe and I are bros he doesn't care". I told him that even if they are "bros" (not really, haven't talked that much since high school) Joe doesn't want to come back to find his bottle empty. So I eventually convinced him to go with me to the store and we got a few bottles.
There are other examples of this behavior but that's just two. I don't want to embarrass my fiancé and tell him to stop eating off someone's plate or suggest that he is overstating how close he is with someone, but I feel uncomfortable when he does this. I feel it reflects poorly on him and us both. We can afford our own food and everything else, we don't need to take from other people.
Can't decide if I should bring this up or if it's something to let go ?
tldr- fiancé can be a little moochy. Should I bring it up with him ?
Submitted October 01, 2018 at 11:33AM by Moochertaway https://ift.tt/2Or5uVM
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