My (25m) brother found out that I’m gay (21m). He is now blackmailing me for money or he will tell our homophobic family.

Me and my brother “Mark” have always had a strained relationship. For a few years now he has been what you would call a “functioning” addict. He has a good job, a girlfriend, a house, but he uses almost daily and hides it from a lot of people.

I know what he is really like but our parents have been in denial about it and still treat him like a prodigal son. They refuse to see him as an addict and are almost enablers his in certain aspects.

Meanwhile, I’m not as close with our parents but I still consider myself close to them despite me being gay and knowing how they feel about homosexuality. However I have been able to keep it a secret from them my whole life so far, I had no plans in the near future to tell them.

My dad has expressed openly violent statements about what he would do to “faggots” and how he despises everything about gay people. My mom is more reserved but has expressed let’s say “distaste” for gay people, but is more of a quiet disapproval type.

Well, the other day, my brother had come over to my place to pick something up that he had forgotten there. He has a habit of not knocking before entering my house and that day I had my boyfriend over. Well, he caught us sharing a quick kiss in the kitchen. I know it was stupid and risky to have my boyfriend over when my brother usually just walks in, but it was my place and I was feeling down so he came over.

Mark doesn’t say anything, just mumbles “I’ll come back later” and leaves. I immediately start freaking out and not an hour later I get a text from him saying, “If you don’t give me 100$ a week, I’ll out your ass to Mom and Dad. And we both know what Dad will do. Make up your mind”.

I’m freaking out here. I can’t afford to pay my brother every week but I also am not willing to risk mine or my SO’s safety, especially when I am still leaning on my parents for various supports, which is why I haven’t come out to them yet.

What do I do here? Should I accept the consequences of my parents finding out? Or should I find some other way to get the 100$? I know he wants it for his using money.

Any advice would be helpful.

Tl;dr; My brother is blackmailing me for money or threatening to out me to homophobic parents.

Submitted October 02, 2018 at 05:50PM by poortit https://ift.tt/2yciHri