This may not seem like a big deal, but it's beginning to really get me down.
My gf is in a very high powered job and works in such a way that she has to argue in a professional capacity...a lot. It makes arguing with her frustrating as she has a keen memory for detail and turning arguments back around. She's rarely ever wrong.
I on the other hand would say I'm pretty laid back, happy go lucky. She's very fastidious and tidy and whereas I wouldn't say I'm a slob (far from it!), I can be a bit untidy at times.
We've been together 6 years and things have been going great but over the past year we seem to be fighting more.
Just this past weekend I had my 10 year old stay with me at my place (I keep my house ticking over to have my kids stay with me). I took him to his first professional football game and he loved it! I rang my gf that night and we were talking about the day and I was telling her how my son loved the game. I was telling her how I was talking to him about how different things are in a live game to watching it on TV - how you don't get commentary and there isn't a replay if you missed an incident etc and she just flipped. She started ranting about how I was trying to ruin it for him and why can't I just let him enjoy it etc.
My jaw was on the floor. I didn't know what to say as arguing with her is fruitless. I tried telling her that I was just talking about how different it was etc but she wouldn't have it.
She does this more and more; gets an idea in her head and there is no persuading her. She can be very abrasive and has lost friends and destroyed family relationships over it. She is rarely wrong, but the problem is that because she is rarely wrong, when she is she can't see it. It's difficult to know how to get her to be a bit more introspective and ask herself if what she did was a normal reaction.
It sounds like nothing but more and more I'm feeling like I can't talk with her or be honest with her these days as I am sick to death of being pulled up and told off and treated like a child.
I'm worried its going to destroy our relationship which is going to really hurt both of us.
In this instance I'm 100% sure she is in the wrong. That in itself is a daunting prospect because if i can't get through to her that this has got to stop and I didn't actually do anything wrong, I'm just not sure I want to carry on.
TL;DR GF flipped at me pointing out the differences between live and televised sport to my son and accused me of trying to spoil it for him.
Submitted October 01, 2018 at 04:59AM by throwaway__2018 https://ift.tt/2Nddo0s
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