Broke up with bf of 5 years. Why is he not accepting the breakup?

Yesterday, on my 5 year anniversary, I officially ended things with my long term, live in boyfriend.

On top of finding tinder on his phone twice within a two month period, I found out that while I was on a work trip for a week in July, he went to a strip club and got multiple lap dances. And I have my suspicions that he went to a strip club with his friend on Friday when they went out.

Here’s the kicker: he hasn’t paid me rent in 6 months. All is he does is smoke weed and whatever else.

What really put me over the edge was the fact that one, the minute I’m gone for a small period of time, he felt the need to get a lap dance. Two, he can’t pay his bills, so whatever money he has, he basically owes to me.

So when I found out he was using his limited money on weed and strippers and not rent, I immediately told him to move out.

He’s asking why I’m being so immature and if I’m “okay” which I think is his way of asking if we’re “okay”

I don’t think he took my breakup seriously? I told him he has until Sunday to figure something out. We’re both on the lease but I’ve been covering all the bills anyways.

I’m not a walking doormat and he treated me with absolutely no respect. He is constantly lying to my face.

Anyways, he texted me this morning good morning. I haven’t replied. But what the hell is his move or motive here? He also just tried to call me but I didn’t answer.

I don’t think he’s taking my feelings toward how he’s been toward me as seriously as he should be?

He threw in that it was only a $20 lap dance. I don’t necessarily care if it was $1 or $1,00 you don’t have that money and it’s incredibly disrespectful. Especially because he is constantly lying about everything. So trust is gone.

It’s ironic because in July on my work trip, a guy kept trying to kiss me and I told him no I have a bf. And the guy was like you’re really faithful and I said yes. All the meanwhile, unknowingly at the time, my bf is getting a lap dance.

Also any advice on getting over a long term relationship is helpful.

I’ve already deleted our text thread and unfriended him on all social media so I’m not tempted to stalk him or be impulsive.

TL;DR my bf of 5 years has been being shady and sneaky and I can’t trust him anymore. I don’t think he’s fully accepted the breakup, what can I do?

Submitted October 01, 2018 at 09:25AM by elephant-lover https://ift.tt/2NfTPo6