My girlfriend's (27F) open invitations make me feel unwanted. How do I (27M) get her to understand that I would like to feel more wanted?

My girlfriend seldom extends a direct invitation for us to go out together. Instead, she always leaves it as an open invitation, saying something like, "Assume that you're invited or that you can tag along if I'm attending XYZ." While this might seem welcoming, it often feels like I'm forcing myself to come along. Moreover, she tends to distance herself and be less affectionate in public, making me feel like my presence doesn't really matter to her.

Although it may seem like a minor issue, it would mean a lot to me if she would just ask me to join her by saying, "Hey, I would like you to come with me to XYZ." Instead, I'm left with the uncomfortable task of asking, "Can I come with you?" or assuming that I can tag along, only to be met with a cold reception when we get there.

Although I have talked to my girlfriend about this, she seems to think that my concerns are not entirely valid. Despite my attempts to explain how I feel, she simply reiterates her perspective without offering any resolution to the issue. While I am beginning to question whether I am being unreasonable, I still feel that her approach to inviting me to events is causing a strain in our relationship. I am unsure if this is something I should simply accept and move past or if it requires further discussion and compromise between us.

TL;DR Girlfriend extends open invitations, but it ends up with me feeling like I have to invite myself. What can I do fix this?

Submitted May 12, 2023 at 06:34PM by BigBoiSouth https://ift.tt/mXdnI3q