I (32M) don't know how to move forward with my relationship with my fiancée (28F) after finding out about her past

My fiancée (28F) is the most amazing, gorgeous, bubbly, and thoughtful woman I have been with. We met through mutual friends and have been together for two years. The relationship has been blissful, and I knew she was the one, so I proposed to her two weeks ago, and we plan to get married by the end of the year.

Two days ago, when we were together she told me that there was something very important that she wanted to discuss with me. She said she had hidden some things about her past and wanted to be open about everything before we got married since it's been eating her up; and told me she had been a sex worker for a few years before meeting me. This came as a complete shock to me since I never expected her to have done sex work, but I remained respectful and asked for more details about her past work. She revealed that in her first year of college, when she was 18, she started camming to make some extra money, and after a year of camming, she also started working as a stripper and did it throughout college and a while after that too.

Then she got a real job working in an office, so stripping became too time-consuming and tiring, but she liked how much money sex work brought, and many of her stripper friends also worked as escorts, so she joined the website they all used, and for the next two years, she was an escort. After two years, she became a sugar baby for one of her regular clients and was with him for about six months until he replaced her with someone else, and that is when she felt that she wanted to stop being a sex worker.

About a year after she stopped sex work, she met me. She said she really loved being with me and our relationship is the best she's ever had, and always felt terrible about not revealing her past to me, so she came clean now. I don't know if this was the right thing to do, but I asked her how many people she slept with for money as a sex worker, and she said the number would be around 70-80 men and 10-15 women. Honestly, I felt disgusted at that moment. I really love this woman but since that day, I have been finding it really hard to wrap my head around everything. If it was just the camming and stripping, I think it won't have really affected me since it's so common. I still have girl friends who were strippers in college so it's not a big deal, but the thing about her being a prostitute is what's affecting me. I don't want to look like a misogynistic pig or make her feel devalued, but I'm not sure what to do now. I think she can feel it because we usually sleep together every night, but I have avoided intimacy since that day. Can anyone offer some good advice? Leaving her would be the last thing I'd like to consider.

Tl;dr: Fiancée told me about her past as a sex worker and I'm finding it hard to process everything and move forward

Submitted May 14, 2023 at 03:10AM by Happy_Donuts https://ift.tt/micbCdT