I (25M) am a single father to 2 sweet & silly twin daughters that are 4 years old. My adorable angels. Like many kids when they're the age of 2-4, they simply get annoyed with either wearing diapers or clothing & starting running around completely nude. My little girls for a while haven't been a fan of wearing clothing, they absolutely love running around the house completely naked being silly and playful. I've been teaching them that it's never okay to undress in front of strangers or in public and that if someone touches their private parts, to please let me know immediately.
I was having a small family gathering at my place two days ago. My parents, sister, a cousin of mine and a friend of my father’s was also present. He’s a “family friend”, although i'm not really friends with him. Me being a nice person, I told my father he could bring his friend over (we’ll call this friend Robert). They showed up, everything was going great. Well suddenly, one of my daughters comes running out from the hallway completely nude. She’s running back & forth, then to the sofa where I was sitting at. She was simply being playful, she wanted to cuddle with me but I immediately covered her with a blanket that was close by to me.
What Robert said was really disturbing to me & I couldn’t control my anger. He said “Oh the boys are going to love her so much when she’s naked. She’s gonna be so much fun”. I told Robert to shut the fuck up, that what he said was disgusting to me. Everyone in the living room went dead silent, but do you know what Robert did? He just sat there laughing, as if it was a joke.
I told him to get the hell out of my house and that’s when everyone stood up to calm the situation down. I took both of my daughters to my room, I didn’t want any of them near Robert after what he said. I also didn't want them hearing any arguments, they're innocent and don't need to hear any negativity in their young age. My sister was on my side, telling our parents what Robert said wasn’t appropriate at all. She didn't stay near us, she immediately went to my room to be with the girls. I was very thankful for that, knowing my kids were with someone I truly trusted during all of this. My parents kept telling me to keep my mouth shut, they wanted to handle the situation privately. Eventually they walked out and I called out to my dad that Robert was never allowed back to my house. Robert just laughed and told me it was all a joke, that I was “too young to understand”. Whatever the hell that means. I wanted an apology for that disturbing comment about my daughter, didn’t get one & was completely ignored.
I got a call from my dad afterwards saying I shouldn't have lashed out at Robert, that he would’ve handled him privately. I told my dad I didn’t care what he thought, Robert may be his friend but he isn’t mine. Oh! and guess what? Robert wants ME to apologize for being rude. He is “offended” that I “attacked him” and wants me to apologize. Excuse my language, but fuck that. I’m not apologizing to him. In fact, he needs to apologize to me for that awful comment he made about my daughter.
Was i wrong here? Did i overreact with how I lashed out at Robert? I personally don't think so. I was simply standing up for my daughter, who didn't deserve to be sexualized at all. My parents and Robert are certainly making me look like I'm the bad guy here, which is so twisted. I definitely believe my parents are on my side, but they won't say nothing too harsh to Robert cause they all grew up together. I was just calling out unnecessary sexualization, what's wrong with that? I stand by what I did, I did nothing wrong.
TL;DR: I lashed out at my dad's friend for sexualizing my daughter. Now my parents are acting like if I'm the bad guy. I believe I did nothing wrong.
Submitted May 06, 2023 at 12:26AM by GalacticKittieKat https://ift.tt/GnmidRL
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