Me [26F] with my boyfriend [26F] of 3 years, I am strongly considering breaking things off because I hate his dog.

**mistake in title, should be 26M (boyfriend).

Okay please don't hate on me, I love dogs - just not owning them. I can't handle their hair (i'm slightly allergic, it makes me itchy) or the level of training and responsibility they take.

My partner got a puppy against my wishes. We don't live together, so my thoughts being against this dog did not matter much to him. He lived alone (we had seperate apartments, he was trying to find a house) and all in and all I guess it was his choice to make, not mine. But he got the dog knowing well I am slightly allergic and am not a dog person. I was also very against the idea of owning a dog when he is someone who works 12 hour shifts leaving the dog home alone for most of the time.

Fast foward to the dog now being around 7-9 months old and my boyfriend has bought his first home with the dog. I am still in apartment due to my lease and even then after it ends i'm not sure I will be moving in with him, especially because of the dog. He's a Pitbull so he's big as hell now. He's very reactive so taking him on walks is impossible. He jumps on people. He barks at being left alone and obviously has some attachment issues. I hate this dog. I don’t want anything bad to happen to him and on a human level when things happen, like when he’s got skin issues going on or there’s a storm (he is left in a fenced backyard while the bf is at work) I worry about him. But in all other sense, I don’t feel an attachment to him deep down. I have zero desire to live in the same house as him. I hate the smell of dog, I hate the hair, I hate laying in bed and seeing and feeling all the hair all over me. I hate when he stares at me when I eat, I hate thinking about how embarrassed I would be to have anyone over. I hate when my boyfriend makes comments to me that I should “teach” him to not jump on me. Or that you just “get used to him barking” as we’re trying to have alone time. The dog freaks out cause there's another dog outside? Ohh that's just him "being protective of me". The level of denial I feel like my boyfriend is in bothers me as well. I am over it.

I don't want to train him, I don't feel like it's my responsibility. My boyfriend would laugh at the idea of taking him to classes and insists on "waiting it out till he's older and calms down" but I don't have 2-3 years in it for me.

We have worked so hard for this relationship but it's a dog making me want to leave ASAP. I don't know what to do or if i'm being fair.

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tl;dr: Boyfriend got a dog against my wishes, I hate the dog and I don't feel like I could live with it.

Submitted April 08, 2023 at 12:27AM by CarshayD https://ift.tt/TKCSuZG