I've been with my wife for 7 years. This weekend my best friend comes over to our place to hang out. we're all drinking and having a great time. Around midnight I pass out honestly from just tiredness I had 4 drinks but just get sleepy early. I woke up at 5:30 am in a panic because music is still playing and I go to the bedroom and my wife is not there and I don't know where they are. No reason to think infidelity at this point my life is honestly perfect. Her phone is still on our table and our patio door is open. Double panic we have cats and one of them isn't inside. I go out and they walk up and said they were looking for her phone that I give her. I then spend the next 12 hours looking for our cat after a shit nights sleep and ask my wife why the door was open and where they were. She said they were walking around the complex talking about his relationship with his serious gf and his move to another city as that's something going well in his life. He's been a great friend and honestly at this point one of my only friends. After a shit day, walking 17,000 steps through mild hangover I find the cat. So happy our family is back together. I shrug off the open patio door as an honest mistake it was hard to close. We watch TV and hang out that evening and I feel so relieved.
Then I get a call from my friend that next night saying he has to come clean and says that they kept drinking way too much and my wife came on to him. That she told him she wants to fuck him and put his hands on her. That they made out and did not have sex, but that he regrets it and they stopped before that point. I hang up the phone and ask my wife what the fuck is he talking about. She says it's true. That they did that and stopped and regret it. Im so confused. Our life was perfect. I spent 12 hours of full on anxiety to find our missing pet that I was worried was dead and was only missing because she was cheating on me, and to top it off that she didn't tell me. She says she's sorry. She doesn't know why. That she was really drunk. That shes sabatoging this and wants to go to counseling. That she wants to stop drinking. I didn't even think she really had a drinking problem, but there is a very rare occasion I'm thinking about now where she has too many drinks and it's a disaster situation. After a girls night I remember her banging on the window at 5am crying because she almost got arrested and lost her home keys (ubered home). Well that and now this. I said of course I loved her that's why this hurts so much.
We just got married. We just had a big wedding. I'm fine financially but what in the fuck point was all that big show for? We aren't fighting. Our relationship has been amazingly good and we've worked hard to build our life together.
I'm going to voluntarily travel out of town for work this week. My work at the moment is so busy it's incredibly stressful, but I still make a big effort to prioritize my personal life and give my wife the love and attention she deserves. We are childless and have the time. I felt like my role in life was to do good and be a good husband to my wife. Don't know how I'm going to focus, but I'll try to use work as a distraction.
I feel like I'm doing everything right. I was so happy. I trusted infinitely and put my love all out there. I know she wouldn't do this if she wasn't drunk, but what in the actual fuck. She still made the choice to drink that much. To walk with him to his car. I was here asleep on the couch while my wife is busy letting our pet out and shattering the perfect image I had of our life. This is going to be shitty if I can't trust her. I'm so mad she didn't say anything either. Was she just going to lie about it forever? I asked her and she says she doesn't know. She tried cuddling me at night and I just said let me sleep. I just don't know what I'm supposed to do. Very sad, mad, betrayed, etc.
TLDR; wife (been together 7 years) in perfect relationship cheated on me while we were drinking with a friend and I went to bed early. Not sex, but I didn't find out until the next day when the friend told me. Feel very hurt.
Submitted April 10, 2023 at 05:12AM by milkwithspaghetti https://ift.tt/F2f83gz
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