Me (m28) and my gf(F28) have been together for almost 2 years now. She’s great, fun, smart, loving and kind. When it’s just the two of us, she’s great. However, I find her to be too much when we’re around other people.
I’ve noticed that she seems to like being in the center of attention (she get’s resteless when she isn’t and starts doing random things to be noticed again) but she’s quite charming so it comes naturally otherwise. I do have a hard time with boastful people and find myself getting the ick when she starts talking about her trips, how glamorous her office is and the people she’s around, or exaggerates experiences to keep the attention on her. I know she isn’t doing it maliciously (in fact, she doesn’t seem to be aware of her behaviour at all) but it’s clear that she looks up to people with money, brands and extravagant lifestyle (“the elite”, as she calls it). She also likes to be admired in general and has said that she does crave some validation from people.
On top of the above, she can often say flirty things or encourage conversations with other people that border on flirty in her need to create a connection, to a point where my friends have on occasion asked me if she’s flirted with them, or commented on her need to be in the center. This isn’t helped by her preferring to surround herself with guy friends as she finds girls to be too problematic.
I feel like I should love her for who she is and support her no matter what, but on the other hand, I want her to be more humble and okay with having the spotlight on another person for one night. I do think that she wants to appear humble too, but even then she’s boisterous about it, by announcing charity pledges or framing donations in her home.
I want to empower her, but it’s getting difficult to not let my irritaion show with her behaviour. How do I talk to her about this?
TLDR: My girlfriend is very boastful and also humblebrags around friends. She likes validation and need peoples attention and admiration when we’re out with friends, which is turning me off a little bit. How do I tell her this?
Submitted March 06, 2023 at 02:40AM by Throwra6000_no https://ift.tt/geHpIFi
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