Quick background….
We are both in our mid 30’s and reside in western NY with no children and don’t plan to have any. We have been together for 10 years total (married for 5). I am currently on medication for depression and most of this depression is brought on by seasonal affective disorder. I have tried all the in home remedies I have read online (lamp, various vitamins daily, etc etc). The only thing that has seemed to help me a little bit is the depression medication that I’m on. My wife is obviously aware of my issues and I have pleaded with her on and off for the past 5 years to consider moving south for my well being.
Every time I discuss this with her it is meant with resistance, mostly because her family lives very close to us currently and she doesn’t want to leave them. I have even recently tried discussing splitting our time between two places because we both work remotely. She has been a little more open to that but has still been very hesitant to commit to anything. She has always been someone who is EXTREMELY risk averse and would go through her entire life doing the same thing everyday if she could. Am I insane to consider leaving her next fall and going south alone? Other than this one incompatibility we really have a great relationship. The only other thing I have thought about is maybe starting couples therapy? I love my wife with all my heart but I’m not sure how many more western New York winters I can take without flying off the deep end.
TL;DR: I’ve had seasonal depressive disorder for years and wife won’t consider moving south with me. Should I divorce her because of this?
Submitted February 08, 2022 at 10:26PM by AncientAndy1985 https://ift.tt/G0Xq2JH
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