Husband (30M), who I (30F) haven’t seen or had any contact with in 3 years, showed up to my home after I filed for divorce.

I left my husband 3 years ago. Our relationship wasn’t good at the time. We were fighting constantly and life was so stressful that I was having panic attacks multiple times a day towards the end. The panic attacks weren’t caused by him exactly, they were caused by the things I had to do because I was married to him (e.g. excessive socialising, volunteering on committees, feeling like I had to look and act a certain way, etc.).

I’m not proud of how I left… I never had a conversation with him or anything. I just upped and left one day when it got too much. I pretty much had a breakdown and it was only 8 months later after I had gotten help that I realised just how screwed up what I did was.

In all of that time he has never once tried to contact me and I was too ashamed to reach out to him after what I had done. It’s been over 3 years and I finally took the steps to dissolve our marriage as I believe we both deserved the chance to move on.

I wasn’t expecting him to show up to my home considering as far as I was aware he lived in a different continent to me, but he did. He was angry at me and wanted to talk. He claimed he always knew where I was but he was waiting to see what I would do. Now that I had made my move, he was making his. I wouldn’t let him inside even though he wanted to talk. He refused to leave and said I owed him a conversation and that I wouldn’t get my divorce without it. I finally agreed to go for dinner with him on Friday so he would leave but I’m terrified.

I don’t know what to say or how to act. I feel like the dinner is going to be awful but I also do feel like I owe it to him. Does anyone have any advice on how to handle this?

TL;DR – I left my husband over 3 years ago and we’ve had zero contact since. I finally filed for divorce and it caused him to randomly show up at my home and ask to talk. I agreed to go to dinner with him on Friday but I’m terrified.

Submitted February 15, 2022 at 03:47PM by ThrowRAdhx https://ift.tt/lQwEdzH