What to do with my(22F) friend (22F)that believes God will select her boyfriend and provide a magical escape plan from her abusive parents (50's M&F) who have been beating her up since she was 7?

tl;dr My friend completely lost her mind after enduring the abuse coming from her own parents for 17 years (since she was 5-title is a mistake). She is not trying to save herself because she thinks everything is God's plan. Her own will and emotions seem completely detached from the reality.

My friend Pearl and I go way back to elementary school. It was a christian private school with significant tuition fees so everyone was pretty much well off and the dysfunctions in the family were obviously shushed. Thinking back, even though it was a christian school, the parents were busy flaunting their wealth whenever there were events.

There was not much genuineness in guiding students with the christian beliefs. It wasn't anything like a cult. For me, the experience here drove me away from the religion and I can say I am an atheist.

Pearl and I were very close throughout and she was the few of the friends I liked in my school. During the six years we were in this school, she never indicated that she was being abused.

After elementary graduation, we were apart but we still managed to keep in touch although it was infrequent. I moved to another country and it became even more infrequent.

Today, I could finally get a hold of her after two years of not getting responses from her social media. We had a three hour long call and I learned that she has completely changes. In my book, she is borderline delusional.

Turns out she was struggling a lot mentally with her family situation where she was being abused. She confided in me that this has been going in since she was 5 and it was only getting worse as she grew up. Police has been called numerous times for the mom beating her and her dad and sometimes the two parents worked together to beat her up. There was never any clear reason she was getting abused, it was because they were angry with themselves for their own reasons.

During the two years I couldn't reach her, she was almost admitted to the mental health facility for having many crisis.

She tried to sue them for the damage but couldn't due to lack of financial or mental benefits.

When I was calling her, it sounded like she has completely lost it because she kept mentioning all this is God's plan. I agree that it is a core christian belief to have faith in God's plan for each and everyone. But she kept telling me how even if she does anything or tries anything, it is going against the God's plan and she should just do as he tells her to. She said she feels it in her and knows it when God tells her to do stuff.

She said she met a guy (21M) because she heard God's voice. Pearl told me the guy also heard God's voice to date Pearl. They decided to obey the God's voice and date each other. Pearl told me she was not attracted to him whatsoever but believed that it is God's plan to make her grow as his child.

They dated for about six months and during this time she kept using the guy to save herself from killing herself. To me, the guy left her because he couldn't handle the pressure of being responsible for someone's life and death, but Pearl thinks it is because God planned to show the true colour of the guy (Pearl's boyfriend) to make her realize she only needs God and nothing else. She says shes a sinner for trying to find comfort in another person other than God.

She also said she doesn't get mad at people for doing her wrong because that is God's way of showing flaws in people for her to love and embrace. She believes that her parents are sinners and that also is her task to understand them and embrace them with love.

I felt like I was going crazy listening to her talk. I told her she can't think everything that happens is because God wants it to. She needs to give credit to herself for enduring this much and should have more control in her own life rather than leaving it up to God.

She told me I think like above because we have different levels of belief in God. I couldn't push her more to come back to reality because it seemed like she needed someone to talk to.

I asked her what she is going to do from now on and she said she's going to wait for God to tell her what to do next. She stopped going to school and she is not looking for a job. She is still living with her abusive parents due to financial reasons.

I really want to help her out of this situation and it only seems like it's getting worse as she is convincing herself that God will make everything alright.

What can I do?? Please give me some advice...

Submitted April 09, 2021 at 12:09PM by dlsjrhdwn https://ift.tt/324K9qi